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Message: <blockquote data-quote="pukunui" data-source="post: 5542229" data-attributes="member: 54629">Thanks for sharing. Honestly, it's helped a lot just having people say "I've been there. I know how you feel." I don't feel so alone now, I guess. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />I know, and that's why I was so keen to get some momentum back again, but it just hasn't happened. EDIT: I was just reviewing my e-mails with the other GM and the whole "momentum" thing was actually how I managed to convince the other guy to let me run my game three weeks in a row when I was first restarting the campaign, but of course we didn't end up playing three weeks in a row after all, and so I was never able to build up any momentum in the first place.That's not quite right. I'm treating it like a usurpation because he didn't keep me in the loop when he was planning the game. He just sprang it on me. If I hadn't asked him why he couldn't meet with me one Friday, I would never have known it was happening until perhaps one of the other players mentioned it in passing at my table, or perhaps not until I sent out an e-mail saying I wanted to run my game three weeks in a row only to have someone e-mail me back to say, "Er, actually ..."This is actually what I'm most upset about. The scheduling conflicts are the "last straw", as it were, but the lack of communication/perceived betrayal of trust is the bigger, underlying issue. Whether or not it's true, it feels to me like I was being deliberately kept in the dark about the whole thing. As I said, I wouldn't have expected the other guy to ask my permission or anything, but it sure would've been nice to at least have been kept in the loop with a courtesy head's up e-mail or something. Is that really too much to ask? I'm just talking about something along the lines of: "Hey Jonathan, I'm looking at running a Pathfinder game during the 'off' nights for your Star Wars game and three of your guys are interested in playing too. Just FYI." I think something as simple as that would've made a world of difference with regards to my attitude about the whole thing. At the very least, I would've been able to discuss the schedule with him in advance, instead of having to fight with him about it after it was too late to change it.Here's how it went down: I e-mailed the guy to ask if I could meet up with him to collect some minis and other gaming aids off him. I asked if he was free Friday night. His response was: "Playing Pathfinder ..."Now, I know that it's easy to misinterpret tone and intent with e-mails, but I took that little ellipsis as a sign of a guilty conscience on his part, like he didn't really want to tell me that's what he was doing. I could just picture him doing that guilty shifty eye thing and muttering his response out the side of his mouth. "I should've told you this before, but ..."I said: "Ah. So does that mean you wouldn't be able to do Star Wars on a weekly basis? I was thinking of doing it every week for a few weeks in a row when we first restart, but I wouldn't keep it that way for long."Only then did he spill the beans: "Yeah - sorry, we're playing on the alternate week to SW, & the group includes [Players #1-3] amoungst others...so it wouldn't be just me... I'm DMing an adventure path called Kingmaker, which I'm really looking forward to - I just hope I can do it justice. I'd love to be a PC in it...sigh... Funnily enough, we're playing weekly from tomorrow night, up until when we start SW again." [I just love that "funnily enough" bit ... it's like he was rubbing it in without even necessarily trying ... "I'll get to run my game for a few weeks in a row but you won't! Nyah nyah nyah!"]That's when I "jokingly" said, "Oh I see. Usurping my group, eh? <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />" and he "jokingly" replied with the "Booyah! Yoinked whilst you were sleeping pal! <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />" bit. The thing is: while I'm pretty sure he was joking, I'm not entirely sure that I was. I think I was just pretending to be joking but was really being serious.</blockquote>

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