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Message: <blockquote data-quote="pukunui" data-source="post: 5543403" data-attributes="member: 54629">I must not have been clear enough. Let me reiterate that they have not abandoned my game for the PF game. All they've said is that if they had to choose between the two on any given night, then they would choose the PF. All three have expressed an interest in continuing to play in my Star Wars game so long as it doesn't conflict with the PF game. And that's fine. I'm not holding that against them any longer.That being said, though, I think that my mindset has now shifted since I started this thread, and I am now looking forward to running a game with just two players rather than five.I don't need to find that out. I already know that.But do you have to be so nasty about it?Thanks for that insightful comment. I'll take it to heart.Yep. That's what I said I was going to do from now on. If one or both of my remaining players (or I) don't feel like playing my game any given week, for whatever reason, then we won't play. I won't pester them to change their minds or give them grief about it at all.You're absolutely correct. I have a tendency to get defensive. I absolutely do take things too personally. I am not going to deny that in the slightest. But I do also think that some people are getting the wrong idea, and that may be entirely my fault for not presenting the "facts" or even my feelings clearly enough.The thing is, I've moved on since starting this thread. Just writing it all out and putting it out in the open was very cathartic. I no longer feel so upset. I have made a decision and I am forging ahead with it.Perhaps a little bit, yes.But I am willing to accept genuine advice and criticism. I just wish people could be polite about it rather than snarky. I mean, honestly, what useful purpose does being snarky serve? I think probably the main reason I've been defensive is because of the snark from some posters. It's just not necessary. Why can't we have a civil discussion and be all polite and stuff? Gotta love the anonymity of the internet! You can be as snarky and rude as you want because the people you're talking to don't know who you are or where you live ...I'd say just as many people have said they sympathize with me. It's an even spread. And most of the posters here have been polite and civil.Looks like maybe we both fell down on the "bothering to do stuff" front then, eh?How are you reaching that conclusion? Wanting a head's up is not the same thing as wanting permission. I don't understand why expecting people you associate with to keep you informed of their plans, especially if there's a chance they might negatively impact on your own plans, is such an awful thing. Yes, I do feel entitled to be kept informed, and I don't see why that's so wrong.But it does concern me! Just because I'm not participating in the event doesn't mean it doesn't have any impact on my life.Again, I only ended up "not using" the week he gave me because he called in sick at the last minute. I'd already had Player #3 say he wasn't going to be there because he was going off on yet another of his outdoors excursions, and Player #2 had said he was going to be so late that he might as well have missed it altogether. At that point, I was not in the right mindset to run the game with so few players, so I decided to cancel. And bear in mind that this was at the very last minute. Same day. Only a few hours before the session.Are you able to read his mind? Can you honestly say with any certainty that he didn't mean to imply that?You could be right.Maybe not. But what do you want me to say or do about it now? How would you suggest I proceed?</blockquote>

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