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<blockquote data-quote="Samnell" data-source="post: 295490" data-attributes="member: 130"><p>Yes and no. I'm not the most forthcoming person in the world with my sexuality or my gaming, but all my friends know. There was an uncomfortable period where I wasn't sure if I should tell my gamer friends (who I've met relatively recently). I finally did so when after a near TPK I was the only person at the table with a PC who's gender matched my own.</p><p></p><p>They didn't care, fortunately, but I had wondered what kind of response I could expect. We're all strange in our own ways, but was my particular way going to cause problems?</p><p></p><p>It wasn't an overt thing. Nothing along the lines of "you must be straight or else" vibes coming at me. But even amongst gamers I was wondering how much leeway I was allowed.</p><p></p><p>In wider society I tend to keep quiet. I live in a relatively conservative small town and I'm not too hot on the idea of drawing attention to myself. I don't know what would happen if I did. I don't go out of my way to appear normal (I dress kind of preppy but that's just my tastes) but there's always a calculation. Is it going to be ok to tell this person? Could it cause me problems if I do?</p><p></p><p>I don't feel compelled that I must conform so much as I'm aware of possible negative consequences if I don't. Not drawing attention to it does allow me a sort of middle ground. If there's a gay scene here I'd be amazed and regardless I'm not active in it. I don't know of any gay advocacy groups active around here either that I might be inclined to participate in. I'm sort of under the radar.</p><p></p><p>I do have a certain advantage, though. You can't tell a person's gay by looking at them...unless they're wearing a t-shirt that advertises it or something. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> You can't tell if a person's a gamer either. It's normally pretty easy to coexist.</p><p></p><p>Is that what you wanted?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Samnell, post: 295490, member: 130"] Yes and no. I'm not the most forthcoming person in the world with my sexuality or my gaming, but all my friends know. There was an uncomfortable period where I wasn't sure if I should tell my gamer friends (who I've met relatively recently). I finally did so when after a near TPK I was the only person at the table with a PC who's gender matched my own. They didn't care, fortunately, but I had wondered what kind of response I could expect. We're all strange in our own ways, but was my particular way going to cause problems? It wasn't an overt thing. Nothing along the lines of "you must be straight or else" vibes coming at me. But even amongst gamers I was wondering how much leeway I was allowed. In wider society I tend to keep quiet. I live in a relatively conservative small town and I'm not too hot on the idea of drawing attention to myself. I don't know what would happen if I did. I don't go out of my way to appear normal (I dress kind of preppy but that's just my tastes) but there's always a calculation. Is it going to be ok to tell this person? Could it cause me problems if I do? I don't feel compelled that I must conform so much as I'm aware of possible negative consequences if I don't. Not drawing attention to it does allow me a sort of middle ground. If there's a gay scene here I'd be amazed and regardless I'm not active in it. I don't know of any gay advocacy groups active around here either that I might be inclined to participate in. I'm sort of under the radar. I do have a certain advantage, though. You can't tell a person's gay by looking at them...unless they're wearing a t-shirt that advertises it or something. :) You can't tell if a person's a gamer either. It's normally pretty easy to coexist. Is that what you wanted? [/QUOTE]
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