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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Snarf Zagyg" data-source="post: 8734817" data-attributes="member: 7023840">Okay, then I'll lean on this-Your connotations are the not the same as everyone else's connotations.Your labeling of how victims and survivors must feel (shamed, not embarrassed) is, in my opinion, wildly inappropriate. If you went through training, then you know that demanding victims and survivors feel a certain way is not appropriate. "Oh, you feel embarrassed? No, you don't. Let me explain to you why you need to feel deep and abiding shame- because only that captures your trauma, fear, and despair."Moreover, funny thing ... you didn't address why you think it's appropriate to shame and publicly embarrass people who use perfectly acceptable terms that are part of training by accusing them of victim-blaming. It is probably not wise to lean into this pedantic distinction when you are accusing them of victim-blaming for using accepted language.Finally, given that you acknowledge that everyone does not use the same language, maybe it would have been best for you to just say, "Hey, my bad."</blockquote>