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Message: <blockquote data-quote="RoughCoronet0" data-source="post: 8736868" data-attributes="member: 7031665">It may not be the main reason for you, but it sure as heck was one of the main reason why I spend YEARS keeping the sexual abuse I suffered from as a child and as an adult a secret, never wishing to speak on what had happened to me. It doesn't help that when I first tried to finally speak up about it, I was mocked and shamed for feeling the embarrassment I felt for having suffered the abuse, for waiting so long to speak up on it, and even for not expressing my trauma in a "correct" way, among other disgusting things people have said to me.When I saw the direction that this thread started to go down (I honestly partially regret reading any of this at all after how upset I got, which I also feel really embarrassed and angry about too), it reminded me of the mocking, the shame, and the embarrassment that I felt. I wanted to post something before but knew at the time I would have been too angry to express myself in a respectable or respectful way. Even now I am trying not to let my emotions rule me as I type this. I even downvoted a post of yours earlier (which is another point of embarrassment I feel) before reading later posts that have allowed me to better understand your position and how this has also affected you. I am glad I continued to read your posts though. I understand now how triggering that description is for you (and possibly others that have also suffered or had friends and loved ones suffered), I simply felt I needed to express how triggering it was, at least with how it was coming off in the posts, to be told how wrong I was for expressing my own experiences as such, or how others have explained what others have expressed to them as such. I will try to be mindful of this going forward if I feel the desire to post more in the discussion.</blockquote>

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