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Message: <blockquote data-quote="WayneLigon" data-source="post: 4384445" data-attributes="member: 3649">Getting people together can be hard, but there are many ways to make it easier. The first thing that must happen, though, is to find players that will not treat Game Night as something you do if there's nothing better to do. Of course sick kids, major family vacations, and emergencies take precedence. Some people with unpredictable jobs will also miss games. School schedules will mess with it for a time, but that can be managed. Once everyone is out of school, things should become much easier. Being married or having kids is not as huge an obstacle as people make it out to be: the rest of your life doesn't need to suddenly stop running. But you do have to learn time management and the value of saying 'no' to people. What needs to happen is a tacit agreement among your players that you keep this one night open. In fact, it's not 'open', you already have a standing commitment with a previous social engagement: the game. And treat it like you would any other binding social engagement. You have a prior commitment, so it takes precedence.If the guys after work want to go get drinks after work, tell them 'sure, but I need to leave by seven, previous engagement'. If your roomie has the latest hottest video game, play it tomorrow. If you'd tell your boss 'Sorry, I can't make the company picnic because my uncle is in town', the same applies here. Tell the in-laws that Saturday is simply not a good day to come down (again, if you haven't seen them for five years and they can't make any other day, that's different. If they live a hour away and you see them every time the clouds parts, tell 'em to push off and make it another day). You'll know not to make dinner commitments or agree to volunteer at church that night, much the same as you would not do so on your anniversary. This is why, once you have several married/out-of-college people it becomes slightly easier to play on a weeknight. 6-10 is easily doable for the vast majority of people. If it's NOT, then again you need to look at how you manage your time and how you can do it better.If the SO doesn't game, I bet they still have a 'me day' where they like to get together with the girls or guys, or otherwise have a day or half-day apart. See if they can shift 'me day' to game day, so you get to go out and hang with your own 'me friends'.</blockquote>

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