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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Lizard" data-source="post: 4384448" data-attributes="member: 1054">I'm 43 years old, and have been playing with people in my age range (down to about 20 and up to about 50) for ten years now, in two different regions, making two games a week on average with near-100% show up rates (on average, one person will miss one game a month, usually with a week's warning.)We are all adults with jobs, spouses (who game with us), etc. No one lives in their parent's basement.How do we manage this?Because we ARE adults, dammit, and treat "the game" like *any* *other* *adult* *responsibility*. This is so damn simple I don't understand why so many groups have problems with it."Going to the game" is like "going to the gym" or "going to softball practice" or "going to the book club" or any other thing adults do, successfully, on a regular basis. You're a grown-up now. You know how much time you have, what responsibilities you have, how far you can drive, when you need to be up for work. You make the game PART OF YOUR LIFE and allow for it. Does it conflict with Little Billy's After School Program? Well, decide how to deal with it -- either ask if game night can be switched, or find someone else to pick up Little Billy, or drop the game -- whatever works best for you. Don't make "game night" into "that thing we do if there's nothing else happening". Make it "the thing that's happening", and, if it happens to be cancelled for some reason, THEN you have "a free night -- let's go to the movies/stay home/visit grandma/whatever". If you can't make a schedule and stick to it, barring the inevitable emergency and chaos which happens in life, your problem isn't "now that I'm an adult, I have no time to game". Your problem is<img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" />ude, you aren't an adult yet. Sorry.<img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt="(:" title="Smile    (:"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname="(:" />)<img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> happens -- I get that. If it happens to you EVERY WEEK, though...the fault, dear Brutus, lies not in our stars, but in ourselves.)(And, sure, there's times after a long day when I don't want to go the game. I just want to stay home. Y'know what? I go anyway. Why? Because I'm an adult, and I made a commitment, and you don't break commitments because "I was just too tired, man.")As a side note, even if some people can't show -- get together anyway. Play Cataan. Or something. Don't try to run a game with an ever-changing cast. My rule is "Run the game if one player can't make it, run something else for a night if two players can't make it." Keeping things consistent and regular -- not skipping a week anytime one person can't show up -- is key.As another side note -- make sure spouses/SOs game. Thqat way, the game becomes "the thing I do with my wife/husband/lover/boytoy/whatever" instead of "The thing I do that pisses off my etc.".</blockquote>

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