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Message: <blockquote data-quote="TanithT" data-source="post: 5949750" data-attributes="member: 87695">No moral issues.  Minor language issue, unless all your female friends are younger than you and under 18.   A subtle issue, not so much right or wrong, as something to think about.  Do you believe that females are so different from males based on their gender alone that you would find meaningful differences in the play styles around one table that apply to all females?Do you find that there is such a thing as a male play style?  Or do the guys you know handle their characters differently depending on what kind of character they're playing and their individual preferences? Sure, there's different kinds of socialization, and with a large enough sample you might find some interesting differences in gendered styles of handling conflict. But you'd need a very large sample to see those, I suspect, because women's play styles are as likely to differ on an individual basis as men's will.  You have your hack and slashers, your min/maxers, your power gamers, your roleplayers, your peacemakers, your sneaky/clever types, etc.  You'll see all of those in both genders.  What the overall statistics will boil down to is hard to say; I suspect you'd eventually be able to count more women as conflict negotiators than hack and slashers, but there are plenty of women who enjoy playing bloodthirsty barbarians.  It's a game, yo.  It's not real life.Both gamer girls and gamer women are indeed reading, thank you.  How are your challenges masculine in nature?  Do they involve fathering a child?  If not, I'm at a loss to figure out how the challenge of getting across a chasm or fighting a monster or disarming a trap could be characterized as either masculine or feminine.  It's just there, and your gender is less a factor than wanting to survive the dungeon.Also, please take a look at what you just wrote.  If you are considering male gamers to be men and female gamers to be girls, please consider the status discrepancy between those two terms.  It's fine if the girls are actually children - that's what the word means - but it can be a power, status and maturity separator if you are saying "men and girls" about people of roughly the same age. Absolutely, a transgendered person can, and in some ways they have a pretty unique perspective on how it feels to be socialized into a gender role they don't feel that they actually belong in.  Thank you for being inclusive at your gaming table, and please remember to identify the transman as "he" and to treat him and consider him to be male, unless he tells you that he prefers to identify in some other way, perhaps as genderfluid or gender neutral.  In that case, ask what pronoun he prefers.  If you are considering a transman, regardless of his state of physical transition, to be one of the 'girls' for the sake of a study on how 'girls' behave, that isn't workable.  He isn't a girl, whether or not he was initially socialized like one.  Please respect this. Why?  And do you also normally limit women from choosing male characters?The point of gaming for me, whether as a player or a GM, is to tell compelling interactive stories.   As a writer, my characters may be male or female; it depends on the story I want to tell.  Being limited to telling the stories of only one gender would make gaming no fun for me.  Also it would make me think the GM had weird gender issues and thought of the game as more than a story with characters, or more than just a game that anyone can play.  I am not my character.  My character is my character.  He or she is not me.  I am telling a story and playing a game.  People who confuse the game with real life creep me out, and I don't want to play with them.</blockquote>

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