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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Henry" data-source="post: 2870001" data-attributes="member: 158">This is when I would explain to Christie that it would be helpful for her to learn to read before returning to the book club. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> Just like I would tell would-be gamer girlfriend that it would be helpful for her to read up on the rules a bit before the next game, and ask the boyfriend for help. It's not unreasonable to expect someone to know the rules of tennis before they participate in a doubles tennis game, and it's not unreasonable to ask same of an RPG participant. I wouldn't throw them out the minute they displayed a lack of knowledge -- this is why many current female gamers were turned off to the game in their earlier years by belligerent all-male groups not interested in giving them any benefit of the doubt.On a different note: It's possible that a girlfriend is participating to see what the actual game is like, and what their potential love interest is doing with his time on weekends. It's also possible that someone who doesn't have any interest in a hobby is going to be drug every step of the way through the process; in that case, it's unlikely they'll return after the first session, anyway, so problem solved. But if someone has a genuine desire to become familiar with the game, it would be kind of cruel to not give them any leeway when they make mistakes, or don't understand every rule. For all you know, you could be sabotaging the next great future DM of your gaming group. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />My experiences: When I was dating my wife years back, she wanted to set in on a few gamers and see what this "role playing game" was about. All she had heards were the Sixty Minutes "it's demonic" references when growing up, and that's all she knew. A few sessions of Call of Cthulhu were all she ever played but she gathered:1) My hobby was perfectly safe, if a little too time-consuming;2) I was not engaged in risky activity;3) Role-playing was not her bag at all.It was this that gives her a safe feeling when I am off gaming (instead of a bar or strip club), and it also helped her when her sister began role-playing and other "nerdy" activities in high school and college, by helping her explain it to their parents so they wouldn't be worried.</blockquote>

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