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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Dog Moon" data-source="post: 8160295" data-attributes="member: 23023">Family is tricky. And even with what you said, there's still a lot we don't know about the situation. For example, I don't know what situation your sister and her husband is in that they require help. Seems to be something more than just financial assistance...Thing is, while I believe it is important to help family when we can, it isn't up to us go give up everything for them (though would perhaps be different if it was your own child that needed the help). We are our own people and have our own lives. Maybe we'll find someone, maybe we won't. I doubted I would find someone... became married. Later divorced, but the point is that I found someone even when I doubted I ever would and the chance is entirely there that I will find someone else.It won't necessarily be easy trying to forge your own path. I had made a few decisions that basically set my mother against me. It wasn't even anything that affected her. One of the biggest decisions is that I fell in love with (and married) a girl who was half-Somali, half-Arab. Obviously, she wasn't white. I never knew it would have such a huge impact on my mother, but apparently she's racist and she perceived it as an attack on her. She couldn't be happy for me. We argued a lot and eventually I had to remove my mother from my life. While I do occasionally wonder where she's at right now, I know that even though the end was because of my decision, everything that led up to that decision was because my mother couldn't be happy for me even though I was doing what was right for me. However, in the end, while I wish things had turned out differently, as long as she has that attitude, she was going to bring nothing but negativity in my life and I'm better without that negativity.I'm not saying that you need to go THAT extreme, but my point is that you should do what feels right for you. I don't think you should feel naughty word for doing what's best for yourself, for not sacrificing yourself for another person. Just offer what assistance you are willing/able to provide. If they are unhappy with it, it's on them, not you.</blockquote>

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