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<blockquote data-quote="Hussar" data-source="post: 6876572" data-attributes="member: 22779">How's this for a hypothetical [MENTION=6667193]sunshadow21[/MENTION]?You're part of the management of a gaming convention.&nbsp; A woman comes to you and says that John Doe (whose name she actually gives) said things to her and she is very offended.&nbsp; She wants you to do something.&nbsp; &quot;What did he say?&quot; is NOT the right answer.&nbsp; The right answer is to tell the woman that you will get right on it.&nbsp; You then go to John Doe and say, &quot;Look, friend, there has been a complaint about you.&nbsp; This is a formal warning.&nbsp; If there are any other complaints about you during this convention, you will be asked to leave.&quot;And THAT'S how you handle that.&nbsp; What he said, how he said it or anything else doesn't matter one whit.&nbsp; You should ALWAYS err on the side of caution.&nbsp; If John Doe hadn't actually said anything or it was just a misunderstanding, then there will not be any more complaints about John Doe for the convention and no harm, no foul.&nbsp; End of problem.&nbsp; OTOH, if there are more complaints about John Doe, then you simply eject John Doe and again, this is the right answer.&quot;Is your harassment complaint legitimate enough to me that I should get up and do something about it&quot; is 100% completely the wrong answer.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Hussar, post: 6876572, member: 22779"] How's this for a hypothetical [MENTION=6667193]sunshadow21[/MENTION]? You're part of the management of a gaming convention. A woman comes to you and says that John Doe (whose name she actually gives) said things to her and she is very offended. She wants you to do something. "What did he say?" is NOT the right answer. The right answer is to tell the woman that you will get right on it. You then go to John Doe and say, "Look, friend, there has been a complaint about you. This is a formal warning. If there are any other complaints about you during this convention, you will be asked to leave." And THAT'S how you handle that. What he said, how he said it or anything else doesn't matter one whit. You should ALWAYS err on the side of caution. If John Doe hadn't actually said anything or it was just a misunderstanding, then there will not be any more complaints about John Doe for the convention and no harm, no foul. End of problem. OTOH, if there are more complaints about John Doe, then you simply eject John Doe and again, this is the right answer. "Is your harassment complaint legitimate enough to me that I should get up and do something about it" is 100% completely the wrong answer. [/QUOTE]

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