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<blockquote data-quote="MechaPilot" data-source="post: 6878682" data-attributes="member: 82779"><p>I'm going to say something that probably won't earn me any friends, but I feel it needs saying.</p><p></p><p>Several posters have said they wouldn't tolerate harassment, or assault/battery, in their presence. Good, that's as it should be.</p><p></p><p>However, people can say (or type) anything. My experience with harassment in gaming involved no one at the table standing up for me, despite my extreme distress. Those players didn't stand up for me because they were complicit. But, between complicity, intimidation, fear of retaliation, and not wanting to get involved there are plenty of reasons why people might have still allowed my harassment in a game store or at a con.</p><p></p><p>Again, to those who are stating what they honestly believe when they say they wouldn't tolerate something like that around them, I applaud your stance. I just wonder how that plays out in practice. I've seen too many people sacrifice their morals and ideals instead of sacrificing FOR their morals or ideals. As people, and not gods, we're all very flawed, but I'd like to think that we try. I really would like to. And, sometimes I do think that we try. But, all too often I just don't have the strength to bear that belief absent any real evidence.</p><p></p><p>You know, I love this hobby. I've met some really wonderful people in it; current friends and friends who've passed, and I treasure the time I've spent with all of them (even my friend's idiot step-brother, who thought the answer to an in-game riddle was "spork"). I love telling stories, and having a good laugh around the table. I love watching genuine excitement on others' faces when a combat is tough, or when the session ends/breaks on a cliffhanger. I love it when I get the mood just right in a horror game and a player actually gets goosebumps. There's just so much I love about this hobby, but I hate that I'll never get to share it with a lot of people because I know I won't feel safe or welcome in the places where that happens. I put a lot of love and devotion into this hobby, but it feels so unrequited because I don't think it will ever embrace me back.</p><p></p><p>I'm gonna stop now. I'm actually starting to cry. Maybe that's too much information, and maybe it's just because I have occasional depression issues. I don't know. I just, I don't know.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MechaPilot, post: 6878682, member: 82779"] I'm going to say something that probably won't earn me any friends, but I feel it needs saying. Several posters have said they wouldn't tolerate harassment, or assault/battery, in their presence. Good, that's as it should be. However, people can say (or type) anything. My experience with harassment in gaming involved no one at the table standing up for me, despite my extreme distress. Those players didn't stand up for me because they were complicit. But, between complicity, intimidation, fear of retaliation, and not wanting to get involved there are plenty of reasons why people might have still allowed my harassment in a game store or at a con. Again, to those who are stating what they honestly believe when they say they wouldn't tolerate something like that around them, I applaud your stance. I just wonder how that plays out in practice. I've seen too many people sacrifice their morals and ideals instead of sacrificing FOR their morals or ideals. As people, and not gods, we're all very flawed, but I'd like to think that we try. I really would like to. And, sometimes I do think that we try. But, all too often I just don't have the strength to bear that belief absent any real evidence. You know, I love this hobby. I've met some really wonderful people in it; current friends and friends who've passed, and I treasure the time I've spent with all of them (even my friend's idiot step-brother, who thought the answer to an in-game riddle was "spork"). I love telling stories, and having a good laugh around the table. I love watching genuine excitement on others' faces when a combat is tough, or when the session ends/breaks on a cliffhanger. I love it when I get the mood just right in a horror game and a player actually gets goosebumps. There's just so much I love about this hobby, but I hate that I'll never get to share it with a lot of people because I know I won't feel safe or welcome in the places where that happens. I put a lot of love and devotion into this hobby, but it feels so unrequited because I don't think it will ever embrace me back. I'm gonna stop now. I'm actually starting to cry. Maybe that's too much information, and maybe it's just because I have occasional depression issues. I don't know. I just, I don't know. [/QUOTE]
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