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<blockquote data-quote="Gradine" data-source="post: 6879209" data-attributes="member: 57112">You seem to be confusing &quot;offense&quot; with &quot;terror&quot;. I was addressing another poster's skepticism regarding a &quot;culture of terrorism&quot;; you appear to have lumped me into the &quot;Don't ever ask follow-up questions to complaints&quot; crowd, which I don't personally agree with. A misunderstanding based on mis-hearing someone else is something reasonable adults should be able to get cleared up with little issue. Offering unsolicited comments regarding a woman's physical appearance who you do not, personally, know, is &quot;unintentional terrorism&quot;. You are probably not intending to make the woman uncomfortable; the likelihood is high that you actually are. Exactly how uncomfortable (or filled with actual terror) a woman on the receiving end of such a compliment depends entirely on their own past experiences (or stories they've been privy to). Some might take the compliment well. Others might take it horribly. The reasonable and respectful table would:A) Make it clear to all players at the table that their voices will be heard and their boundaries respected.andB) Actually hear their voices and respect their boundaries.That these very simple acts of common courtesy have apparently been too much to ask for for decades is a big part of the problem. That this lack of respect has extended to larger public spaces (see: game stores and cons) has made entering those spaces a legitimately risky proposition for a certain type of gamer.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Gradine, post: 6879209, member: 57112"] You seem to be confusing "offense" with "terror". I was addressing another poster's skepticism regarding a "culture of terrorism"; you appear to have lumped me into the "Don't ever ask follow-up questions to complaints" crowd, which I don't personally agree with. A misunderstanding based on mis-hearing someone else is something reasonable adults should be able to get cleared up with little issue. Offering unsolicited comments regarding a woman's physical appearance who you do not, personally, know, is "unintentional terrorism". You are probably not intending to make the woman uncomfortable; the likelihood is high that you actually are. Exactly how uncomfortable (or filled with actual terror) a woman on the receiving end of such a compliment depends entirely on their own past experiences (or stories they've been privy to). Some might take the compliment well. Others might take it horribly. The reasonable and respectful table would: A) Make it clear to all players at the table that their voices will be heard and their boundaries respected. and B) Actually hear their voices and respect their boundaries. That these very simple acts of common courtesy have apparently been too much to ask for for decades is a big part of the problem. That this lack of respect has extended to larger public spaces (see: game stores and cons) has made entering those spaces a legitimately risky proposition for a certain type of gamer. [/QUOTE]

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