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<blockquote data-quote="Dannyalcatraz" data-source="post: 6884879" data-attributes="member: 19675">There are boards in which my identity is fully known.&nbsp; Now, I'd rather trolls not know who I am and other stuff, but I guarantee you that if I were fully revealed in retaliation for revealing a troll, the troll would have a harder time of it.&nbsp; My secrets are small things, and would not up harm me and mine so much as being exposed to making crimially actionable threats on the Internet.At any rate, I was also unable to access ENWorld for some time today, starting while I was editing the post you're responding to.&nbsp; I meant to continue:Another alternative to harassment, shunning, voting with dollars/feet is constructive engagement.&nbsp; I've seen some powerful examples of it working in real life- one reason why I don't use message board ignore lists.&nbsp; The one I took to heart was that of a Rabbi who was getting phoned threats of violence from a neo-Nazi.&nbsp; Instead of hanging up, or yelling or any of the normal, expended reactions, the Rabbi always asked the caller why he was doing what he was doing, in a calm, clear &quot;fatherly&quot; voice.After many months of this, the harassment stopped, and caller asked to meet the Rabbi.&nbsp; They met several times, and eventually, the Rabbi convinced him to give up his hatred.&nbsp; The man started getting his &quot;88&quot;, swastika and other tattoos removed.More time passed, and the former white supremacist married a Hispanic woman.&nbsp; The story ended when the man got a terminal diagnosis, and he &amp; his wife spent his final days living with the Rabbi's family.That is the power of constructive engagement.&nbsp; We can't all be as strong as that Rabbi, but his story gives us a an example to aim for, and an idea of what we can achieve if we try.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Dannyalcatraz, post: 6884879, member: 19675"] There are boards in which my identity is fully known. Now, I'd rather trolls not know who I am and other stuff, but I guarantee you that if I were fully revealed in retaliation for revealing a troll, the troll would have a harder time of it. My secrets are small things, and would not up harm me and mine so much as being exposed to making crimially actionable threats on the Internet. At any rate, I was also unable to access ENWorld for some time today, starting while I was editing the post you're responding to. I meant to continue: Another alternative to harassment, shunning, voting with dollars/feet is constructive engagement. I've seen some powerful examples of it working in real life- one reason why I don't use message board ignore lists. The one I took to heart was that of a Rabbi who was getting phoned threats of violence from a neo-Nazi. Instead of hanging up, or yelling or any of the normal, expended reactions, the Rabbi always asked the caller why he was doing what he was doing, in a calm, clear "fatherly" voice. After many months of this, the harassment stopped, and caller asked to meet the Rabbi. They met several times, and eventually, the Rabbi convinced him to give up his hatred. The man started getting his "88", swastika and other tattoos removed. More time passed, and the former white supremacist married a Hispanic woman. The story ended when the man got a terminal diagnosis, and he & his wife spent his final days living with the Rabbi's family. That is the power of constructive engagement. We can't all be as strong as that Rabbi, but his story gives us a an example to aim for, and an idea of what we can achieve if we try. [/QUOTE]

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