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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Warrior Poet" data-source="post: 2699945" data-attributes="member: 1057">I wonder if this thread requires chanting the sacred name of Teflon Billy three times in hopes that he will appear to provide the righteous love-life smackdown we all require from time to time . . . hmmm.  Don't know.  For now, let's forge ahead without the Great One's guidance and see what we can learn.You're 16?  So, presumably, she's around the same age?  By now you've probably noticed that life at age 16 is somewhat awkward?  So the reason she seems to be acting awkward when you and she communicate is because she feels awkward.This does NOT mean that she really means yes when she says no.  What she really means is, in fact, no.Exactly, and that's what fusangite said.  See?My advice is to RELAX.  Take some very deep breaths.  Go read a book.  Go get some exercise (exercise is a wonderful way to help get some distance on things so you can get some perspective on things).  Go volunteer some time helping out someone who needs it.  Go look up some new information you never knew about lunar geography.  Go learn a new skill from a mentor.  Most of all, RELAX.You're 16!  You're life is a huge, wide-open, great-big-possibility waiting to happen!  It probably seems hard to believe right now, but you're going to meet many more females that you find interesting and exciting and enchanting and curious and passionate and excellent.  How cool is that?!  Lots more!  Some of them will be attracted to you.  Some won't.  You'll be attracted to some of them.  You won't be attracted to others.  Welcome to life!fusangite and some of the others here have made some good observations.  It doesn't seem like this girl wants to go out with you, and THAT'S FINE.  You will be o.k.  You'll live, and go on to have a long, interesting, fascinating life as a living, breathing, human being and taxpayer, and some day look back on all this and laugh about it.  Sounds cliché, but that doesn't mean it isn't true.An observation about some things fusangite said:My advice is don't hold on to this, because it means holding on to hope that Someday! She! Will! Realize! You! Are! The! One!But all that's gonna get you is heartache.  Don't hold on to hope on this one.  Move on to your life.  Save yourself the ache.  Say, "Eh, whatever," and go out into the world and meet other people and make your world a bigger place than the narrow focus on this girl to which it has recently atrophied.  Anyone that has that much mind-blanking effect on you, has TOO MUCH POWER over you, power which only you can give away and only you can reclaim.  You are you're own person, so recover that sense of self and move on.I agree with the first sentence.  fusangite is absolutely, right-on-accurate with that statement.  However, I submit that while you may feel scared, you don't necessarily have to be.  It's hard not to be scared when you're scared -- can't just say, "I'm not scared!" and the feeling stops.However, you can try to focus on what I said before about turning your mind to other things.  This girl isn't the be-all and end-all of you.  Don't make her out to be the sun in your world.  1) She's not, and 2) it's actually really insensitive and presumptuous to do so.  She's who she is.  She is NOT who you imagine she is.  So forget about her, move on, go find something to occupy your time, like role-playing games or sports or bio-mechanical engineering or juggling or impenetrable mysteries of the universe such as whatever happened to good FM radio.Let her go.  It'll hurt, but that's o.k.  It will also heal, and then you'll be better equipped with some perspective and life experience the next time you meet someone to whom you are attracted.One last thing.  I'd say counseling, as fusangite suggested, is a good move.  It can really help to get some focus by talking to a qualified professional (instead of a bunch of amateurs on a message board) who is removed from the situation and can point out things about the situation you can't see because you're blind over this girl.  Chin up, and good luck.Warrior Poet</blockquote>

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