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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Torm" data-source="post: 2702226" data-attributes="member: 12706">From what I've read, I see a few possible paths for you from here:1. You continue to pursue her with the same anxious nervousness as now. This will probably lead nowhere, and keep your stomach tied in knots.2. You pursue her with complete dedication and self-sacrificing vigor, carefully avoiding the stalkerish qualities of always being physically present or nosy on the level of a private detective, while making clear your love and utter devotion to her well-being and the things she cares about. This will probably lead somewhere - but not necessarily a happy somewhere. The sort of somewhere that involves you still being devoted to her and miserable about it on occasion well after she has moved on.3. You relax, just be her friend. I see this leading one of two places - either you remain good friends until your lives take you in separate directions at some point, or she suddenly starts to dig you now that you are no longer showing that sort of interest. This means either you were trying too hard and she likes you better when you're just you, OR, she's got some sort of problem and can't dig guys who dig her for some reason. This last one is something to watch out for.4. You slowly begin to secretly and carefully manipulate matters so that her relationships with friends and family crumble apart, while you remain steadfastly at her side, gradually increasing your importance to her. You end up dead, in prison, or as the CEO of a Fortune 500 company. Probably all three. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f61b.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":p" title="Stick out tongue    :p"  data-smilie="7"data-shortname=":p" /> Don't give up, though. Heck, I went with option 2 - the one that everyone else here will tell you doesn't work and means you're an idiot <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /> - at age 16, the girl and I were married when I was 17, and she's asleep behind me right now, 14 years later, while our kids are playing on the Gamecube in the next room. Of course, she did approach me, way back when. But regardless, you never know until you do. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />(I should note that I tried option 2 with the girl I was crazy about at 14, too, and that ended badly for me - very badly. So much so that I still pine for her on occasion, and am fortunate to have a wife that is understanding. So the 'idiot' sentiment would probably be right. Usually. But - it's soooo romantic. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f631.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":o" title="Eek!    :o"  data-smilie="9"data-shortname=":o" /> )</blockquote>

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