Reply to thread

Message

<blockquote data-quote="EricNoah" data-source="post: 2710237" data-attributes="member: 4">I hate to contradict the World's Handsomest Gamer (TM) <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile&nbsp; &nbsp; :)"&nbsp; data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> -- but...I think TB's method (&quot;do not be nice&quot;) might ultimately leave you unsatisfied.&nbsp; Not that it won't work at all, or that it won't work for the short term.&nbsp; But I think his method is strong on playing games and short on intimacy.&nbsp; In the short term, game playing is useful, even vital, because almost everyone is looking for someone to be a partner in whatever life games they like to play.&nbsp; Playing games can be a good way to get into a superficial relationship, which then if you both are willing, can lead to something deeper and more intimate.&nbsp; But if you stay at the playing games level -- the two of you ritualistically seeking strokes from each other, the two of you both starved for strokes and unable to ask for or give strokes freely without game-playing -- you are starving your souls.&nbsp; But game playing is an important first step in establishing a relationship.&nbsp; Some people won't go any further until you demonstrate that you are adept at playing.&nbsp; I know <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile&nbsp; &nbsp; :)"&nbsp; data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> -- psychobable.I do think TB's &quot;don't take crap&quot; and &quot;be ready to fail&quot; advice, though, is probably good advice for any relationship.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="EricNoah, post: 2710237, member: 4"] I hate to contradict the World's Handsomest Gamer (TM) :) -- but... I think TB's method ("do not be nice") might ultimately leave you unsatisfied. Not that it won't work at all, or that it won't work for the short term. But I think his method is strong on playing games and short on intimacy. In the short term, game playing is useful, even vital, because almost everyone is looking for someone to be a partner in whatever life games they like to play. Playing games can be a good way to get into a superficial relationship, which then if you both are willing, can lead to something deeper and more intimate. But if you stay at the playing games level -- the two of you ritualistically seeking strokes from each other, the two of you both starved for strokes and unable to ask for or give strokes freely without game-playing -- you are starving your souls. But game playing is an important first step in establishing a relationship. Some people won't go any further until you demonstrate that you are adept at playing. I know :) -- psychobable. I do think TB's "don't take crap" and "be ready to fail" advice, though, is probably good advice for any relationship. [/QUOTE]

Verification