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<blockquote data-quote="scourger" data-source="post: 6058860" data-attributes="member: 12328">So the short question is how do I game with my friend who is a jerk?&nbsp; More of the story is that my friend has a beautiful intensity for one specific game.&nbsp; He is really motivated to come play, has been at it for decades, and loves the game.&nbsp; But he also has a terrible intensity for the game that makes him only want to play it and play it only his way.&nbsp; Anything else is either wrong or an overt attempt to ruin his fun.&nbsp; I only recently realized that it's probably no accident that we haven't played that game in several years after he burned out the last referee.&nbsp; But one of the other referees in our group recently started a retro version that I missed at first due to personal &amp; family issues.&nbsp;&nbsp; Now that the group is back to that game and I have returned, I realize that my friend is being a jerk to me; and I fear that he's doing it purposefully as a subterfuge to get me to leave the game again.&nbsp; My dilemma is that I really enjoy gaming and I also have decades playing with some members of the group.&nbsp; If I persist and my friend continues acting out, it may come to an unpleasant confrontation.&nbsp; If I quit, I risk being out of my group indefinitely.&nbsp; It would be impossible for me to replace those friendships and difficult to find another game group.&nbsp; So, I feel that I'm doomed no matter what I do.&nbsp; There's got to be some good advice out there, so please let me have it.&nbsp; Thanks.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="scourger, post: 6058860, member: 12328"] So the short question is how do I game with my friend who is a jerk? More of the story is that my friend has a beautiful intensity for one specific game. He is really motivated to come play, has been at it for decades, and loves the game. But he also has a terrible intensity for the game that makes him only want to play it and play it only his way. Anything else is either wrong or an overt attempt to ruin his fun. I only recently realized that it's probably no accident that we haven't played that game in several years after he burned out the last referee. But one of the other referees in our group recently started a retro version that I missed at first due to personal & family issues. Now that the group is back to that game and I have returned, I realize that my friend is being a jerk to me; and I fear that he's doing it purposefully as a subterfuge to get me to leave the game again. My dilemma is that I really enjoy gaming and I also have decades playing with some members of the group. If I persist and my friend continues acting out, it may come to an unpleasant confrontation. If I quit, I risk being out of my group indefinitely. It would be impossible for me to replace those friendships and difficult to find another game group. So, I feel that I'm doomed no matter what I do. There's got to be some good advice out there, so please let me have it. Thanks. [/QUOTE]

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