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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Systole" data-source="post: 6060076" data-attributes="member: 93930">I'm sure there are many people who consider me a jerk, but it just doesn't bother me.  I've found enough people who value my company at least in part because of my bluntness, and I would rather be myself and have solid friends than spend my time looking for a 100% approval rating.  To be fair, I do strive to be civil toward people who are civil to me.  Likewise, I avoid people who I don't care for, or who don't seem to care for me.  But if someone invades my social circles and wants to play at being an abusive jerk, well .... if you think I come off as sort of a jerk now, then you should see me when I put my mind to it.But with regard to the OP, I don't feel I'm assuming too much.  Both of us gave advice, and both of use had to make assumptions to formulate to our advice, because a four-paragraph forum post is not a perfectly drawn picture of a complex social situation.  But the fact is, the words “abusive” and “jerk” were pretty central to the post.  Given that, my assumption was that the OP has an abusive relationship with his friend, and my advice was that the OP should stop making excuses for the jerk friend and tell him to f*** off.  Your assumption was, I think, that "abusive" and "jerk" were written more in irritation than in truth (or that perhaps these are resolvable issues), and that the OP should reconcile with his friend.  And either of your possible assumptions might be right, but I think both of them are a longer stretch than mine.  So if you think I assumed too much, hey, right back at ya.</blockquote>

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