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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Anthony Terry" data-source="post: 6471285" data-attributes="member: 6776492">I'm glad Umbram seems to be the one you have listened to here, and I'm pretty disappointed to see peoples attitudes towards labelling people "problem gamers" its becoming all too common on EN World.She is simply doing what comes natural to her, in one breath its claimed your issue is that shes indecisive but then your largest issue seems to be her attempts to do what my group refer to as "rules lawyer" and poorly from the sounds of it, which suggests to me her indecisiveness is driven from a need to be right aka win and wanting to do the best action out of everyone every round/encounter.Perhaps the quite obvious reason for her indecision is simply she doesn't feel comfortable with the system and im not refering to the game system, more the system you use at the table or the dynamic? I think a very polite conversation explaining to her that she's not playing a game she has to win and that it does not matter if people get things wrong, including her would solve the issue? I would also on a personal level suggest avoiding action cards, remember just because the character is in combat does not suddenly mean their actions are limited, at the end of the day she could decide to use a torch hanging from the tower to burn the wooden bridge behind them stopping the horde of goblins from advancing, something you would not find on a action card. Do not limit imagination, ENCOURAGE IT! I would 100% confirm this with your most recent post, your interrupting her need to be the best as her being stupid and or indecisive as you've politely put it (imo just making a judgement from your post, could be tottaly of the mark i hope none of this comes across offensive)I would also say from the sounds of it shes just not intrested in her charecter full stop but perhaps really likes the group or the story as a whole? Is your game perhaps a bit fluff light in regards to character development? It sounds far from it with your example back grounds but just food for thought. I have found some people just really wont buy into this and just want to roll dice and enjoy the story and i think it comes down to how roleplay heavy your game is to as whether its an issue or not. Tbh i find it hard to give advice here as its the largest issue in my own group, 2-3 of us are huge roleplayers.</blockquote>

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