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Message: <blockquote data-quote="dragonlordofpoondari" data-source="post: 3668307" data-attributes="member: 42088">Some people do change over time, though. I consciously try to reinvent myself as I go along ... just like Madonna. Once a person decides he knows everything and stops growing, questioning, and challenging beliefs and assumptions, I think this leads to complacencey. These people seem more like zombies or robots than thinking, feeling, fully alive and engaged  individuals. I constantly work for change and self-improvement, because I'm pretty sure that who I am now is kind of lame.As a counter-example (intended not to disprove your point, but to illustrate that it is not axiomatic), there is the all-too-common case of men who marry, have kids, and then decide in their 40's or 50's that it's time to go gay. This happens a lot, especially around my neck of the woods. So much so that there is a kind of stereotype about it.It takes a long time to get acquainted with one's self. Intellectual honesty is awfully hard work. All this is complicated by the fact that people change over time. There are certainly people who are lucky enough or simple enough to know themselves very well at a very young age. I am not one of these blessed few.</blockquote>