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Message: <blockquote data-quote="barsoomcore" data-source="post: 347901" data-attributes="member: 812">There's nothing you can doYeah, you run into players like this. They say they're having fun, they say they're not bored, but they just sit there, doing nothing, all night.A couple of things:1) you have to believe him when he says he's having fun. He's a grown-up (well, so I assume) and he's capable of asking for things if he wants them. Don't try to second-guess him or treat him like a child. He said he's having fun. End of story.2) he may very well be lying to you. This does not change point #1, but it's certainly possible. He may be bored to tears and too polite to tell you, and keeps coming to the game because he has a crush on somebody there. It's possible, but there's nothing you can do about it. Well, what you CAN do is provide obvious moments for him to shine:"One of your group must sing us a song!""Okay, fine, I sing.""What do you sing?""Huh?""Tell me about the song."Blah blah blah... see if he wants to take advantage of moments of glory for him. If he doesn't, forget it, DON'T try to force him. He won't thank you for it.3) He may be depressing the other players or slowing down the game. See what they think -- "I've noticed Fred is really quiet -- is that cool with you? Do you think I could be doing more to get him involved?" They may have insights into the situation that you don't. Also, they may be much more frustrated with him than you are and you need to know that.Wrap it all up and you have a situation in which you don't necessarily have to do anything. If he's cool and the other players are cool, then just shrug and keep on doing what you're doing. If the other players are on the edge of murdering him then you need to take action.</blockquote>

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