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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Spell" data-source="post: 3969229" data-attributes="member: 19718">ah, but that's the thing for me. the passage between paying the price and having what you want is not so linear. it's not like going to the store to buy a fridge or something.example #1: i want to record my music with my band. it doesn't really matter who is in the band, as long as we get along together, we gig, and we share both profits and work, at least to a certain extent.well, good luck with that. i can put all the effort i want in this band thing, but (maybe for sheer misfortune, maybe because it's a sign of god, maybe because i have to insist a bit more... who knows?) until today, very little has happened in this field.sure, we did manage to get some recordings with every incarnation of the band, but then personal problems, need for more money, desire to try something else, or whatever else, always destroyed before we managed to do something... i'm not saying something worthwhile, but something that i could really send around to more than just friends.what is the right price? paying an advance flat fee (that i would have lots of difficulties to raise) for good musicians to sit in and tour with me, and then be happy with all the money (if any) that i will make out of this?what happens if absolutely nothing comes out of it?example #2: i want a girlfriend, i want to fall in love, and i want all of the cheese you might think of.i do have a girlfriend, and i'd say it's going alright... but she's not the extremely romantic type, and this sometimes really hurts me.what is the right price? stick with a woman that i love and that loves me back (although not exactly in the way i dreamed of), or saying: nah, whatever, i'll find someone else, and hope to find the "perfect" match that might very well never come along?and what happens if this "perfect" match has another thing that hurts me every now and then?in my experience, it's hard to really be in a situation that has determinate characteristics. i've rarely seen a "this is the price. take it or leave it" situation happen to other people... and so it's even more unlikely that i would spot one should it happen to me.there's always another option.there's always a "what if?".how do you know that the other option wouldn't have lead to a better solution?should i just trust my gut feelings all the time? because even if you go for "most of the time", then how can i tell that feeling is right in a determinate situation?...i have to say, though, that this thread is helping. maybe it doesn't seem so, but it is helping a bit. i suppose i should just try and find more friends where i live, in one way or another, so that i could spend time with them when i start thinking too much. it did help last year in austin.</blockquote>

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