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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Mac Callum" data-source="post: 1576545" data-attributes="member: 17035">There's two ways to find people: go looking for them; and send up a signal which brings them to you.When looking for people (by posting online, or the FLGS, or church, etc.), way more people will see the message than you want to talk to.  Help them screen themselves out so you don't have to.  The slackjaws will never even call if they see "family friendly, must be tolerant of toddlers."  That goes for any kind of posting.  Start off with some big letters, like "GAMING FOR GROWNUPS", and then specify.  Only more qualifies candidates will contact you.Once they do, the interview process mentioned earlier is great advice.  Meet for coffee, or a game of cards at the FLGS.  Somewhere neutral where no one puts anything at risk.  This is A LOT like going on a blind date.Or, as an old sales manager once told me, "Use a really big net with really big holes.  Everything small goes through, and only the best remains."Throwing up a flag does not require that you tatoo "gamer" to your forehead.  Just be yourself, and let people know you game.  Don't avoid it in conversations.  If people at your Church or workplace know you game, its pretty much a guarantee that they will know you as a person first; well enough to know whether or not they want to game with you.  If it doesn't, just mention changing a diaper while describing an orc ambush.That should keep the teenagers away.  Another "flag" are your D&D books.  A new player in my group is from my wife's office.  She's not a 'flaming' gamer, but she was working on her quest notes for the game she runs during lunch.  Another peer approached her, and that was it.  He's starting next week.  Another strategy available to you is to take your daugter somewhere (like the park/ McDonald's playplace/ etc.) with your spouse.  While the one plays with your little girl, the other can watch while working on a quest or character.  Only other parents of young children will be there.  Maybe one of them will ask about a game.</blockquote>

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