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<blockquote data-quote="EzekielRaiden" data-source="post: 8598055" data-attributes="member: 6790260">You should be not at all surprised to know that I prefer people being honest with me about this sort of thing too--and I prefer to be honest with others about it as well. The challenge, of course, is that honesty of this kind requires a great deal of tact if you intend to give it, otherwise it can be genuinely, deeply hurtful to others in a way pretend elfgames generally can't. I have found that pursuing this kind of honesty with others, avoiding the &quot;white lies&quot; of socialization, has actually improved several of my relationships.Then I would openly repudiate that &quot;rule&quot; as an extremely bad move and would genuinely consider never playing D&amp;D again, unless and until such rules were removed. I already dislike the fact that the 5e DMG says &quot;...and don't let on that you're [fudging.] Otherwise, your players might think they don't face any real risks--or worse, that you're playing favorites.&quot; Meaning, even the books themselves advocate concealing this from your players. That's bad enough.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="EzekielRaiden, post: 8598055, member: 6790260"] You should be not at all surprised to know that I prefer people being honest with me about this sort of thing too--and I prefer to be honest with others about it as well. The challenge, of course, is that honesty of this kind requires a great deal of tact if you intend to give it, otherwise it can be genuinely, deeply hurtful to others in a way pretend elfgames generally can't. I have found that pursuing this kind of honesty with others, avoiding the "white lies" of socialization, has actually improved several of my relationships. Then I would openly repudiate that "rule" as an extremely bad move and would genuinely consider never playing D&D again, unless and until such rules were removed. I already dislike the fact that the 5e DMG says "...and don't let on that you're [fudging.] Otherwise, your players might think they don't face any real risks--or worse, that you're playing favorites." Meaning, [I]even the books themselves advocate concealing this from your players[/I]. That's bad enough. [/QUOTE]

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