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<blockquote data-quote="AbdulAlhazred" data-source="post: 9001578" data-attributes="member: 82106">See, what I read from this is basically &quot;my way of running things is not up for negotiation, so I will not compromise, period.&quot; Now, I expect that's a bit more extreme than the actual situation perhaps, but might the fact that compromise doesn't happen depend on the fact that YOU, as one of the parties involved, simply won't do it? It takes 2 to tango! Obviously there's no definitive answer here, this is all hypotheticals and we can only really talk factually about specific cases, but this is the reason people fail to compromise, because they CHOOSE NOT TO. We are all moral actors, our actions are our own and under our control, so we ARE responsible for the outcomes.And yes, I've run all sorts of games, in shops, libraries, schools, etc. as well as many games with my chosen friends, and some at cons. I don't see that there's any substantive difference. While I can IMAGINE some monumental jerk who is entirely intractable and who's demands are both absolute and absurd, I have not actually experienced that person. That is to say, if you explain, calmly and clearly, why you take a certain position and why you don't believe certain things should happen, then these people have either of two responses, they compromise, or they just leave. The ONLY exceptions here would be abusive, racist, etc. kinds of behavior, and when I ran into a group that insisted on doing this stuff I just shut down the whole game and that was that. But that one specific caveat aside, its an elf game, we can come to some mutually acceptable arrangement about any other part of it!</blockquote>

[QUOTE="AbdulAlhazred, post: 9001578, member: 82106"] See, what I read from this is basically "my way of running things is not up for negotiation, so I will not compromise, period." Now, I expect that's a bit more extreme than the actual situation perhaps, but might the fact that compromise doesn't happen depend on the fact that YOU, as one of the parties involved, simply won't do it? It takes 2 to tango! Obviously there's no definitive answer here, this is all hypotheticals and we can only really talk factually about specific cases, but this is the reason people fail to compromise, because they CHOOSE NOT TO. We are all moral actors, our actions are our own and under our control, so we ARE responsible for the outcomes. And yes, I've run all sorts of games, in shops, libraries, schools, etc. as well as many games with my chosen friends, and some at cons. I don't see that there's any substantive difference. While I can IMAGINE some monumental jerk who is entirely intractable and who's demands are both absolute and absurd, I have not actually experienced that person. That is to say, if you explain, calmly and clearly, why you take a certain position and why you don't believe certain things should happen, then these people have either of two responses, they compromise, or they just leave. The ONLY exceptions here would be abusive, racist, etc. kinds of behavior, and when I ran into a group that insisted on doing this stuff I just shut down the whole game and that was that. But that one specific caveat aside, its an elf game, we can come to some mutually acceptable arrangement about any other part of it! [/QUOTE]

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