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<blockquote data-quote="Scott Christian" data-source="post: 8578911" data-attributes="member: 6901101">Solved because the person got advice on a forum... that is the part you left out. A player at an all-male table keeps making crude remarks about female NPCs. The others don't like it. The DM has said something. It did not stop. They come to a forum for an answer. Do you really believe a stranger's advice (one who does not know the DM or the players) will help this? Do you think they will come up with something that the table or DM could not have come up with on their own?A player keeps using mage hand in unique ways (at least to the DM). The DM asks the forum for advice on how they would handle it. They answer. And the reason their answers work is because they know the entire context. They understand mage hand. What they do not understand is the context of a problematic player or DM. Someone might come along and say, &quot;I had a player like that once. We cut him from the group.&quot; This is something the DM will have thought of. Another might come along and say, &quot;Communication is key. I think you need to sit down and talk one-on-one with the player and express how you feel when they make those jokes.&quot; Another thing anyone who actually considers a problem will have thought of. Another might come along and say, &quot;Give an ultimatum.&quot; This is also something the DM will have thought of. That is what I am speaking of. If it is an actual table-problem, the options are apparent. There is no need for advice. And if they do take any advice, there is a greater chance of it being wrong because the advice giver does not know the entire context.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Scott Christian, post: 8578911, member: 6901101"] Solved because the person got advice on a forum... that is the part you left out. A player at an all-male table keeps making crude remarks about female NPCs. The others don't like it. The DM has said something. It did not stop. They come to a forum for an answer. Do you really believe a stranger's advice (one who does not know the DM or the players) will help this? Do you think they will come up with something that the table or DM could not have come up with on their own? A player keeps using mage hand in unique ways (at least to the DM). The DM asks the forum for advice on how they would handle it. They answer. And the reason their answers work is because they know the entire context. They understand mage hand. What they do not understand is the context of a problematic player or DM. Someone might come along and say, "I had a player like that once. We cut him from the group." This is something the DM will have thought of. Another might come along and say, "Communication is key. I think you need to sit down and talk one-on-one with the player and express how you feel when they make those jokes." Another thing anyone who actually considers a problem will have thought of. Another might come along and say, "Give an ultimatum." This is also something the DM will have thought of. That is what I am speaking of. If it is an actual table-problem, the options are apparent. There is no need for advice. And if they do take any advice, there is a greater chance of it being wrong because the advice giver does not know the entire context. [/QUOTE]

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