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<blockquote data-quote="Grendel_Khan" data-source="post: 9635563" data-attributes="member: 7028554">I get how harsh this sounds, but I think it needs to be said: There's no dealing with these issues without getting on the same page with your wife. Maybe you can sort things out with the neighbor and the other two, but unless you come to an understanding with her, I don't see how you proceed, aside from quitting as a GM. And based on your past posts, I don't think that'll go well with her, either.But, more broadly, your posts present some very antagonistic dynamics within the group. That's really bad stuff, and needs to be addressed. Maybe you're unintentionally presenting yourself as the victim, when the dynamic is more two-sided, but from your telling it's dysfunctional in lots of ways. The answer—both when it comes to your wife and the rest of the group—is probably to do that aggravating thing that we all know we should do, and that's so hard we talk to strangers online about it instead: Have the &quot;adult&quot; conversation with them. Maybe all of them at once? Maybe with your wife first, and then everyone? Tell them how this is making you feel, how the dynamic's become confrontational in some ways, and just at odds in others. But whatever you do, stop putting yourself in the same hang-dog position of shuffling back into the GM chair, doing your duty instead of having a good time. Get some food, maybe some drinks, and talk it though, possibly under the auspices of a session zero (or campaign reset, in this case).If you can't do that, you have to come to grips with the fact that you might actually crave being kicked around.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Grendel_Khan, post: 9635563, member: 7028554"] I get how harsh this sounds, but I think it needs to be said: There's no dealing with these issues without getting on the same page with your wife. Maybe you can sort things out with the neighbor and the other two, but unless you come to an understanding with her, I don't see how you proceed, aside from quitting as a GM. And based on your past posts, I don't think that'll go well with her, either. But, more broadly, your posts present some very antagonistic dynamics within the group. That's really bad stuff, and needs to be addressed. Maybe you're unintentionally presenting yourself as the victim, when the dynamic is more two-sided, but from your telling it's dysfunctional in lots of ways. The answer—both when it comes to your wife and the rest of the group—is probably to do that aggravating thing that we all know we should do, and that's so hard we talk to strangers online about it instead: Have the "adult" conversation with them. Maybe all of them at once? Maybe with your wife first, and then everyone? Tell them how this is making you feel, how the dynamic's become confrontational in some ways, and just at odds in others. But whatever you do, stop putting yourself in the same hang-dog position of shuffling back into the GM chair, doing your duty instead of having a good time. Get some food, maybe some drinks, and talk it though, possibly under the auspices of a session zero (or campaign reset, in this case). If you can't do that, you have to come to grips with the fact that you might actually crave being kicked around. [/QUOTE]

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