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<blockquote data-quote="Janx" data-source="post: 5356526" data-attributes="member: 8835">it's probably time for one of those &quot;difficult conversations&quot; with lots of &quot;it makes me feel&quot; statements.-----------------Bob,When bad things happen to your character and you challenge the DM about it, it makes me feel frustrated.&nbsp; You don't do this when bad things happen to other players, and other players don't do it for themselves to the extent that I feel you do.I feel this behavior is inappropriate for a gamer as it detracts from fun for everyone.&nbsp; I understand that these situations frustrate you, but your behavior exacerbates things.&nbsp; I enjoy your company at the game table, and I would like us to work together to overcome the challenges that happen in the game as the great team we are.-----------------try something like that.&nbsp; Fine tune the wording.&nbsp;&nbsp; The goal is to minimize criticising his behavior, though no amount of word-smithing can prevent him from thinking that anyway.&nbsp; You want to get down to how his behavior is unacceptable and is out of the norm from his peers.At some point the kid who eats his own poo stops because he sees that other kids don't do it (and will criticize him for it), or he becomes a hermit and mails out poo-bombs to his enemies.&nbsp; Either way, problem solved.What you got here is a poo-boy.&nbsp; I don't care how much a friend he is outside the game, or how good he does when he's good in game, if he's causing that much ruckus, he's not a good gamer and he's being an abusive friend.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Janx, post: 5356526, member: 8835"] it's probably time for one of those "difficult conversations" with lots of "it makes me feel" statements. ----------------- Bob, When bad things happen to your character and you challenge the DM about it, it makes me feel frustrated. You don't do this when bad things happen to other players, and other players don't do it for themselves to the extent that I feel you do. I feel this behavior is inappropriate for a gamer as it detracts from fun for everyone. I understand that these situations frustrate you, but your behavior exacerbates things. I enjoy your company at the game table, and I would like us to work together to overcome the challenges that happen in the game as the great team we are. ----------------- try something like that. Fine tune the wording. The goal is to minimize criticising his behavior, though no amount of word-smithing can prevent him from thinking that anyway. You want to get down to how his behavior is unacceptable and is out of the norm from his peers. At some point the kid who eats his own poo stops because he sees that other kids don't do it (and will criticize him for it), or he becomes a hermit and mails out poo-bombs to his enemies. Either way, problem solved. What you got here is a poo-boy. I don't care how much a friend he is outside the game, or how good he does when he's good in game, if he's causing that much ruckus, he's not a good gamer and he's being an abusive friend. [/QUOTE]

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