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Message: <blockquote data-quote="delericho" data-source="post: 6055101" data-attributes="member: 22424">Asking someone not to come back is never easy.My preference, in the first instance, would be to have the DM talk to the player (preferably one-on-one, preferably in person), and explain the issues. Give the player a chance to mend his ways. (This also allows for the possibility that there is an actual good reason for the problematic behaviour - it's always possible that there's some underlying problem that can be fixed, for the good of all concerned.)If this fails, then again I would have the DM speak to the player (again, one-on-one and in person). Explain that there continues to be a problem, explain that the player has been given a chance to correct the issue. And then simply say that they are, unfortunately, no longer welcome at the game.Two things:1) This really needs to be done by the DM, and should be done one-on-one (and in person if at all possible). It's quite important that the other players are not present, because otherwise the player in question is likely to think he is being ganged up on.2) Once things reach the point of asking the player not to come back, it's important to stick to your guns. The player may well take it hard, may make all sorts of promises, and whatever else. But once they've been given the chance to mend their ways, and have reached the point of being told not to come back, you need to stick to that. Otherwise, in another couple of months you'll just have the same situation again with the same player, which doesn't help anyone. (That's also why I strongly advise giving them a chance to fix the issue before simply uninviting them - you want to be sure before getting to this point.)Naturally, as with all things, there is plenty of scope for exceptions of various sorts. That's just the general approach I would take; depending on the personalities involved I might do things differently in any specific case.</blockquote>

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