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<blockquote data-quote="Rel" data-source="post: 4598701" data-attributes="member: 99">I doubt you'd get many people who disagree with your basic assertion.&nbsp; I think that the point being made by some (indelicately in a few cases) is that part of &quot;making your lives work together&quot; includes respecting each other's needs and desires.Assume for a moment that some of the theories here about the wife &quot;forbidding&quot; the husband to have a weekly game night are correct.&nbsp; If that situation were reversed and the wife were posting to complain that her husband refused to allow her to spend an evening with her friends once a week, the cries of &quot;Lose that Zero and get with a Hero&quot; would be deafening.If that is really what is going on here, I don't think it is the place of the gaming group to intervene in their marital issues.&nbsp; BUT, I do think it bodes poorly for their marriage if she's making demands like that.&nbsp; Because he will grow resentful (probably quietly resentful from similar marriages I've seen) and that kind of poison leads to all manner of bad things eventually.I will concede that there are any number of other possibilities, not the least of which is that he really would rather spend time with his wife and is simply using her as an excuse to bow out of the game.&nbsp; I think that makes him a jerk for painting her as the &quot;bad guy&quot; and is why they need to be direct with him about wanting to set a regular day and time so they can all quit this little dance.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Rel, post: 4598701, member: 99"] I doubt you'd get many people who disagree with your basic assertion. I think that the point being made by some (indelicately in a few cases) is that part of "making your lives work together" includes respecting each other's needs and desires. Assume for a moment that some of the theories here about the wife "forbidding" the husband to have a weekly game night are correct. If that situation were reversed and the wife were posting to complain that her husband refused to allow her to spend an evening with her friends once a week, the cries of "Lose that Zero and get with a Hero" would be deafening. If that is really what is going on here, I don't think it is the place of the gaming group to intervene in their marital issues. BUT, I do think it bodes poorly for their marriage if she's making demands like that. Because he will grow resentful (probably quietly resentful from similar marriages I've seen) and that kind of poison leads to all manner of bad things eventually. I will concede that there are any number of other possibilities, not the least of which is that he really would rather spend time with his wife and is simply using her as an excuse to bow out of the game. I think that makes him a jerk for painting her as the "bad guy" and is why they need to be direct with him about wanting to set a regular day and time so they can all quit this little dance. [/QUOTE]

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