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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Crazy Jerome" data-source="post: 4599271" data-attributes="member: 54877">Well, I have the advantage that I'm the GM, my wife is one of the players (and now my son is), and I've also been the "scheduler-in-chief" ever since my wife and I were the first married couple in the game. So, to be fair, all the other players had to deal with our schedules. Most of them are married now, only some of the spouses play, and flexible scheduling is thus a must. For this situation I suggest a two-pronged approach. There is the backup plan: As others have suggested, you have a set day that works for the three other players all the time, and the married guy at least some of the time. If nothing else is set by 5 days (or 7 or 10 or whatever makes sense) out, then you go with that day. If married guy can't make it, too bad.  Then you have the flex plan. Married guy is the guy with the scheduling issue, and he is also the one best in place to do something about it. He will be first to know about his wife's schedule. He is mostly likely to know how to handle whatever issues (if any) she has with his gaming. So give him the job. If he can schedule another day, that everyone can make, sufficiently far out, use that day instead of the backup plan. Let him handle location too--his house or elsewhere. Now, if the group can't be reasonable under that framework, it won't survive much longer anyway. "Dude, I know we meet on Thursday, but the wife has to work on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Friday. Can we make it one of those days next week? Everyone can make Tuesday? Super. (or) Dang, doesn't work out this week. Guess I'll have to miss then."  And while I sense that "avoiding confrontation" is not a huge need here <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />, there is no reason why this can't be generalized to the whole group. You have your set day. If any of the four want to move it, it is there responsibility to find another close day that works for everyone. Otherwise, they miss the session. Besides solving the current issue, it should be good practice for the other three guys, as their schedules becomee less flexible. <img src="http://www.enworld.org/forum/images/smilies/ponder.png"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hmm:" title="Hmmm    :hmm:" data-shortname=":hmm:" /></blockquote>

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