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Message: <blockquote data-quote="chakken98" data-source="post: 3210979" data-attributes="member: 47307">Okay, Here is what is going on.  As I stated somewhere above Gina and Myself having been having a few issues between us both.  I being the big thing, as I have anger issues, being somewhat emotionally detached and the lack of any good friends other then her.  These are things that have been an ongoing problem for at lest 2 years.  So we ended up separating for the time being about a month and a half ago.  Now we both agreed to this (me being more against then for) so we could take care of ourselves, to become better friends and if all worked out a better couple.  And I have taken action for myself by being more calm and taking anger classes, being a better dad, and more attentive to Gina.  But as you all have read the above I've thought that she had been getting involved with a woman.      Boy was I _________ wrong  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f615.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":confused:" title="Confused    :confused:"  data-smilie="5"data-shortname=":confused:" /> .  I was using her phone yesterday to check my bank info and this person texted her while I was mashing buttons on the phone and saw the text.  So as Gina was asleep, I thought to myself "well go ahead and be nice and let this person know that she's asleep.  That let to multiple text messages between us after his reply was I she go upstairs and "take care of her".  (Hopefully you get the idea with that one) Then in the end this person wanted me to call, I didn't at first but after this person replied with that again.  I was like "fine, I'll call this chick so she can rag on me or just ask me a bunch of information that I'm more then sure she knows".....When I'll called I asked for her by name as a guy picked up and he was like "I'm Val"....So we talk after he tell me he's her boyfriend me being very calm as I don't want to threaten to hurt or destroy him.  And he starts to lie about something’s as I know Gina would never say that she doesn't have kids (which was the reason I didn't rush to judgment).  After our 16:55 minute talk, I head up stairs and speak to Gina to find out that she has seen him twice in the past month, and they have been had many phone and text conversion's, and she was going to tell me (which I do believe as Sunday night she got upset and had to think on something and wanted to talk about it yesterday).  As I personally thought that things were being to progress in a better fashion with us I was hurt.  She did call him a yell at him for lying to me about a lot of stuff, I was there for that much of there talk.      But she doesn't want a relationship at the moment, but wants freedom to be able to do as she wishes.  And she doesn't foresee this going any further than a friendship which is good I guess....That and I know she loves the hell out of me, and our relationship is more than the 4 years we were married, as we were best friends with each other 7 years prior to that.  She has guaranteed that she has no emotion attachment to him and that they have not had any sexual encounters.  Mainly just dinner and talking to one another.  And if they continue to date it will end up down the road as a friendship as she has told him that she is in love with me and that nobody else will do it for her.       Now I admit I put myself in this situation as much as she did as it would have been better coming from her then some _________ telling me a bunch of lie's to try and get me to do something stupid.  Points for me I guess.... <img src="http://www.enworld.org/forum/images/smilies/paranoid.png"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":uhoh:" title="Paranoid    :uhoh:" data-shortname=":uhoh:" />  But I feel this is just going blow over after sitting on it, and as Gina and myself are dating again (as one of the major reason for our split, No time for each other is always bad.  That and we made plans for our new second date for this Sunday) we will see what happens.  I realize this sound really weird or crazy.  But I Love the Hell out of her and as I told her yesterday, I will continue to make myself into damn good man not just for her but in general, and she will see (as she's seeing now) that she wants nothing more then me.    </blockquote>

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