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<blockquote data-quote="MNblockhead" data-source="post: 7113400" data-attributes="member: 6796661"><p>Kyle, not sure that you are still following this thread, but, as others have written, don't worry about it. </p><p></p><p>If you truly enjoy your life and are satisfied with how you are living it, but find you don't have time or interest in gaming any more...what's the problem? I think you are more worried about losing things important to you as you mature and take on other responsibilities. This is a concern as old as humanity. Maybe it is more of an issue in modern, Western societies, especially America, where we worship youth, created the concept of "adolescence" as some separate phase of social development, and drag adolescence on into our 30s in some cases. </p><p></p><p>But adults have always played. Adults have always gamed.</p><p></p><p>The creators of this hobby we enjoy were older. They were influenced by middle age men who designed the war games that influenced them, who were influence by the strategy games that were designed and played for thousands of years in nearly every culture you study. </p><p></p><p>Kids play with pebbles. Adults makes codified rule sets to create adult challenges that they can enjoy with other adults and they call it Go. Figurines become chess. Toy guns become real guns for hunting, target shooting, skeet, etc; rough housing and running around with other kids become sports. </p><p></p><p>From the Egyptians playing early forms of chess with carved figurines (action figures), the Chinese and Japanese playing Weiqi/Go with pebbles, the H.G. Wells getting on the ground with other grown men to play war games with tin soldiers, we've played. </p><p></p><p>I stopped playing TTRPG when I went to college. Didn't miss it. Had new friends, girl friends, new activities and interests, a lot of work to do, then there was post-grad studies, career, family, etc. </p><p></p><p>I got back into gaming a few years ago, in my early 40s. Move back to my home town and some old friends were still gamers and they introduced me to some board games and card games I really enjoyed. I missed out on the board game explosion in the 90s. God are games better now. Missed out on the collectible card games. Hated Magic the Gather when I had friends just starting to get into it. Still don't like the random-pack collectible aspect of games like MTG or Pokemon, though I'll enjoy playing with someone elses cards and I do like deckbuilding games like Smashup. </p><p></p><p>But it was Skyrim that got me back to D&D. </p><p></p><p>Never was a huge computer gamer, though I enjoyed games like Zork and such that I could play on my TRS-80 as a kid or on my friend's more game-friendly Commodores and early Apples. Friends and I used to write our own text and simple-graphic adventure games, because there just wasn't that much to buy. But I hadn't played computer games since graduating from high school. I bought the PC version of Skyrim on impulse when my wife and kids were visiting family overseas for a couple months. </p><p></p><p>I was blown away. The graphics on my large plasma screen tv were amazing. My love for fantasy and character building and leveling was rediscovered. I spend nearly every non-working hour playing, until I started getting irritated and bored with it. After the main storyline was completed, it was just house building game and the side missions were formulaic. And it was a lonely, solo hobby. </p><p></p><p>Just about that time the 5e PHB came out. I bought it because Pathfinder turned me off. But 5e was like a cigarette to an ex-smoker. It was an old lover who was still in great shape and better looking then ever, just more mature and easier to hang out with. I started building my campaign world, got some old friends together to play some sessions, and was soon posting for players on Meetup.com</p><p></p><p>Still have work and family, so I only run games once a month, but I make sure to work it in. I go to the local Con once a year to get in my fix to PLAY rather than DM. </p><p></p><p>I've also discovered a lot of new, innovative games and rediscovery old favorites with a make over. </p><p></p><p>The hobby will always be there for you. Take care of whatever you need to take care of in your life. Don't worry about having to take time away from the hobby. If you like what you are doing with your life, keep on doing it. The hobby will still be there for you when you get back and it will look fresher for it. Distance makes the heart grow fonder and all that... </p><p></p><p>That said, one bit of advice. If you marry, or otherwise get in a long term relationship, make sure your significant other understands your interests, even if you are not active in them now. You don't need to marry a gamer—fine to have lovers and spouses with different interests. But it can be hard for an S.O. to adjust to you taking 4 hours a week, 8 hours a month, etc. for gaming if that hasn't been part of the rhythm of your lives. That is the biggest challenge with being away from the hobby and getting back into it when much older.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MNblockhead, post: 7113400, member: 6796661"] Kyle, not sure that you are still following this thread, but, as others have written, don't worry about it. If you truly enjoy your life and are satisfied with how you are living it, but find you don't have time or interest in gaming any more...what's the problem? I think you are more worried about losing things important to you as you mature and take on other responsibilities. This is a concern as old as humanity. Maybe it is more of an issue in modern, Western societies, especially America, where we worship youth, created the concept of "adolescence" as some separate phase of social development, and drag adolescence on into our 30s in some cases. But adults have always played. Adults have always gamed. The creators of this hobby we enjoy were older. They were influenced by middle age men who designed the war games that influenced them, who were influence by the strategy games that were designed and played for thousands of years in nearly every culture you study. Kids play with pebbles. Adults makes codified rule sets to create adult challenges that they can enjoy with other adults and they call it Go. Figurines become chess. Toy guns become real guns for hunting, target shooting, skeet, etc; rough housing and running around with other kids become sports. From the Egyptians playing early forms of chess with carved figurines (action figures), the Chinese and Japanese playing Weiqi/Go with pebbles, the H.G. Wells getting on the ground with other grown men to play war games with tin soldiers, we've played. I stopped playing TTRPG when I went to college. Didn't miss it. Had new friends, girl friends, new activities and interests, a lot of work to do, then there was post-grad studies, career, family, etc. I got back into gaming a few years ago, in my early 40s. Move back to my home town and some old friends were still gamers and they introduced me to some board games and card games I really enjoyed. I missed out on the board game explosion in the 90s. God are games better now. Missed out on the collectible card games. Hated Magic the Gather when I had friends just starting to get into it. Still don't like the random-pack collectible aspect of games like MTG or Pokemon, though I'll enjoy playing with someone elses cards and I do like deckbuilding games like Smashup. But it was Skyrim that got me back to D&D. Never was a huge computer gamer, though I enjoyed games like Zork and such that I could play on my TRS-80 as a kid or on my friend's more game-friendly Commodores and early Apples. Friends and I used to write our own text and simple-graphic adventure games, because there just wasn't that much to buy. But I hadn't played computer games since graduating from high school. I bought the PC version of Skyrim on impulse when my wife and kids were visiting family overseas for a couple months. I was blown away. The graphics on my large plasma screen tv were amazing. My love for fantasy and character building and leveling was rediscovered. I spend nearly every non-working hour playing, until I started getting irritated and bored with it. After the main storyline was completed, it was just house building game and the side missions were formulaic. And it was a lonely, solo hobby. Just about that time the 5e PHB came out. I bought it because Pathfinder turned me off. But 5e was like a cigarette to an ex-smoker. It was an old lover who was still in great shape and better looking then ever, just more mature and easier to hang out with. I started building my campaign world, got some old friends together to play some sessions, and was soon posting for players on Meetup.com Still have work and family, so I only run games once a month, but I make sure to work it in. I go to the local Con once a year to get in my fix to PLAY rather than DM. I've also discovered a lot of new, innovative games and rediscovery old favorites with a make over. The hobby will always be there for you. Take care of whatever you need to take care of in your life. Don't worry about having to take time away from the hobby. If you like what you are doing with your life, keep on doing it. The hobby will still be there for you when you get back and it will look fresher for it. Distance makes the heart grow fonder and all that... That said, one bit of advice. If you marry, or otherwise get in a long term relationship, make sure your significant other understands your interests, even if you are not active in them now. You don't need to marry a gamer—fine to have lovers and spouses with different interests. But it can be hard for an S.O. to adjust to you taking 4 hours a week, 8 hours a month, etc. for gaming if that hasn't been part of the rhythm of your lives. That is the biggest challenge with being away from the hobby and getting back into it when much older. [/QUOTE]
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