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<blockquote data-quote="Zog" data-source="post: 271594" data-attributes="member: 5083">The problem, as I see it, is not so much that you as DM killed your wife's PC - it is that when she wasn't there, and her PC was under the control of other players, that the PC died.Personally, I would be *VERY* upset if I returned to the table to be told 'oh, your character died last session when you weren't here'.&nbsp; If I'm playing the character, and I die, oh well.&nbsp; But someone else?&nbsp; No way.Talk to the other players and your wife.&nbsp; Establish a firm rule: No PC deaths if player is not present.&nbsp; It really stinks.&nbsp; Killing your wife's PC is not, or should not, be a big deal.&nbsp; Heck, I've killed my wife's character - brutally ripped apart by a summoned ape.&nbsp;&nbsp; She was a bit upset, but it was part of the game and she wasn't really all that upset.As for the specifics of what happened - all you have to do is state that she is not quite dead, or nigh dead - not actually out.&nbsp; Make it very clear, this is only because she was not present - the same would happen to any PC whose player was not there.&nbsp;&nbsp; And that 'the dice will fall as they will'.Or - as other folks suggested, find a group of gamers that fit your style better.&nbsp; Post an ad in the game store, use words like 'limited combat' and 'intrique/mystery' to try and get non-hackers for the game.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Zog, post: 271594, member: 5083"] The problem, as I see it, is not so much that you as DM killed your wife's PC - it is that when she wasn't there, and her PC was under the control of other players, that the PC died. Personally, I would be *VERY* upset if I returned to the table to be told 'oh, your character died last session when you weren't here'. If I'm playing the character, and I die, oh well. But someone else? No way. Talk to the other players and your wife. Establish a firm rule: No PC deaths if player is not present. It really stinks. Killing your wife's PC is not, or should not, be a big deal. Heck, I've killed my wife's character - brutally ripped apart by a summoned ape. She was a bit upset, but it was part of the game and she wasn't really all that upset. As for the specifics of what happened - all you have to do is state that she is not quite dead, or nigh dead - not actually out. Make it very clear, this is only because she was not present - the same would happen to any PC whose player was not there. And that 'the dice will fall as they will'. Or - as other folks suggested, find a group of gamers that fit your style better. Post an ad in the game store, use words like 'limited combat' and 'intrique/mystery' to try and get non-hackers for the game. [/QUOTE]

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