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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Goblyns Hoard" data-source="post: 2167070" data-attributes="member: 19970">I've gamed with girls and girlfriends for years... introduced some to gaming, met others through it, and have been pleasantly surprised when one nervously brought up the subject (thinking that I wasn't a gamer and would think she was the geek.... hmmm that was nice)My experience of female gamers - highly varied.  Some were clearly "trying out the boyfriend's hobby", others long term addicts.  I've never played in a game run by a woman (though I know of women that have run games... just not when I was around  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f641.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":(" title="Frown    :("  data-smilie="3"data-shortname=":(" /> Most groups I've played with have been dominated by men in numbers, and often also in style of play.  This is not universal but can be a problem.  And generally (WARNING- GROSS GENERALISATION ABOUT MY EXPERIENCE) I've found that non-gamer women consider the idea of gaming worse than non-gaming men - i.e. they take the piss more and consider it childish where non-gaming guys tend to just think "meh... geek stuff" and leave it at that.  Which means that getting together a group of girls to game with while probably a good thing for you to do would probably be difficult.My suggestions -1) Talk to your bloke, get him to play a one-on-one with you so you get into the real details of gaming.  Use that to get a few of the details down then insist on joining.  Ask him not to tell the others that you've had the 'coaching' sessions.  I'm not suggesting you don't know about the system but there's a difference between knowing the theory and putting it into play, and until you've actually played a couple of games it's likely that you'll get a 'how do I do that again' moment.  It's not that it's a problem - just that the first time you game with all his mates you want everything to go as smooth as possible and a few live sessions will iron out any kinks and make you look less of 'the noob'.  And if they ask for nibbles or soda - tell them where they can find them and that they can grab you one while they're there!2) Stick up a post over on Randomlings House.  I only played a couple of games with Randomling before I moved away from London but I really got on with her.  There had been another girl in the group (Stalking Blue) who had felt a similar 'male oppressiveness' in gaming and might be able to give you better pointers than those of us suffering from testosterone poisoning.  I don't want to give you the impression that their group was a bunch of ignorant jocks - they were all really great in the brief time I gamed with them - but Stalking Blue must have seen another side of things and might be able to offer up some advice.Meantime - get into a game, tell them where to stuff it and welcome to the boardsThe Hoard</blockquote>

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