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Message: <blockquote data-quote="I'm A Banana" data-source="post: 2167407" data-attributes="member: 2067">Y'know, I think that probably a good majority of long-term partners have the exact same convo with their guys, only it's about, say, monday night football or the poker night or friday night with the boys at the bars or whatever.The thing isn't that this is a D&D thing. It's that for your co-hottie (or at least his buds) it's a guy thing. There's a lot of guys out there who have "boys nights out" with poker or baseball or bars or whatever. D&D is just a way for your dude and his dudes to have a boy's night out.So I would suggest handling this the same way that "poker widows" have handled it for years: don't try to muscle in on his guy-time. That's his time to fart and drink and be a man, or at least it apparently his for his friends. Adding another gender to the mix that they feel they have to be gentlemen around (whether or not they really do) obviously makes them feel odd, and I'd be willing to bet your boy feels it, too, but doesn't want to be a jerk about it. That's not to say that you can't play D&D with him or that you're forbidden from the hobby because you're a beatiful woman. But instead of trying to jump in on his guy-friend-time, maybe ask him to help you game with you and some of your friends? Or maybe learn the game yourself, and have a little girls' night D&D alongside his guy's night D&D?  But IMHO, this has a lot less to do with D&D, and a lot more to do with the simple fact that most guys need someplace where they can stink and fart and make jokes about how women and The Man suck and generally be socially acceptable only to each other. D&D is how he and his friends get that quality male-bonding time. Trying to wedge yourself into that is aksing for trouble that has nothing to do with the game itself, and more to do with an atmosphere of fraternity. Let him have his guy time. But since you think you'd LOVE the game, too, you don't need to compromise your own interest just because in his mind it's tied to his male-bonding moments. You know the books, you've seen a game or two, get some friends, tell your man, and spend your Monday nights pretending to be a sun elf, too. Just, do what you can to not have to jump in on his guy-time to do it.-- Kamikaze Midget, who has been converting totally hot cheerleader girls to the Dork Side since 2000.PS: ...some of you guys sound WAY more torqued off about this than you should be. Lighten up.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f621.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":mad:" title="Mad    :mad:"  data-smilie="4"data-shortname=":mad:" /></blockquote>

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