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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Ralif Redhammer" data-source="post: 8771069" data-attributes="member: 30438">Making it a group decision helps you know you're making the right decision. Or alternately, the other players might not care at all. In a few cases, I've seen infractions severe enough that I've not even bothered to discuss and just canned the person.I've almost always tried to be kind when I've had to give players the boot. Kind, but firm. People can put a lot of themselves into their gaming hobby and this can be traumatic. A lot of the time, no amount of kindness will salve that hurt, but it's also for me, to know that I did not do this out of malice or anger.But for certain severe cases, I've always given a warning first. I talk about the good things they bring to the table, but explain 1- the specific behavior that needs to stop, 2 - if they need help, how to do so, and 3 - what will happen if they don't.Once, with a longtime friend, I'll admit to soft-booting and just stopping inviting them rather than talking to them about the problem. I very strongly suspected that they were cheating and had been for years, but also strongly suspected that calling them out on it would damage, if not end, our friendship. One thing I've learned is that good friends do not always make for good players. I was no longer going to compromise the gaming experience at the table, but I also wasn't going to sacrifice a friendship for the game.</blockquote>