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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Kae'Yoss" data-source="post: 3052522" data-attributes="member: 4134">Seems I'm an awfully bad DM and D&D player. I expect people to show up. Of course, there are many reasons why someone can't or won't play. I even would accept "I'd like a break from the game". But unless it's something serious that came up last minute, I want ample warning of it. Not 15 minutes before the game. This counts double if the person not showing up will mean that the game will have to be cancelled.I also expect that people get along, and show respect to each other.So if you don't feel like playing, it's not so bad to stay away - which will mean that the others cannot play, often meaning that you have wasted their time (since they may have not agreed to other stuff because of the game) - as it would be to attend? No way in all the hells. D&D is a group activity, not something that involves only you. It involves people commiting time. If someone can't keep a schedule, he's wasting other people's time, he's showing disrespect. I wouldn't want to have anything to do with such a person.I went away from several gaming groups because it contained people like that. Not bothering to show up, not saying anything (or only 5 minutes because the game started). I missed many opportunities to do other stuff because I was commiting myself to a game that was later cancelled because of some idiot who didn't feel like playing.I understand if you have reasons. I understand if you think you have something better to do - but I want to know soon enough so that I'll know if I won't be playing, so I could arrange other things. Why should I - and several other people - have an afternoon of boredom - having missed the movies, theater, whatever - because you didn't feel like playing and didn't bother to tell us until 5 minutes after the game started?I'd suggest that if you want to see your family next week, tell the other guys this week.</blockquote>

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