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Message: <blockquote data-quote="bloodtide" data-source="post: 9872363" data-attributes="member: 6684958">It is very much a solvable problem.  After all, I solved it!If your honest and aware, you can screen players.  You need to know exactly what you like and what you want, and need to know what will match with you.  Then you can look for players like that, and even better look for the Red Flags.  Even before a session zero.A lot of it is personal to each player.  Like a player with a big back story that they "love" is only a yellow flag....you need to really get a feel for the player.  Will they be a problem?  You can look for hints and clues.The BIG way to "find" the right player(s) is to simply make them.  Some of my greatest best players of all time have been people I introduced to gaming.My best example: Waiting in line at the deli.  Next to me is Mary, mom of one of my daughter's friends...but I don't know her much.  She notices my LotR Tee Shirt(the eye of Saron) and says she is a fan.  We chat, she likes fantasy and I mention I play a fantasy game.  Mary is intrigued.  I give her the "well, I will be at the rec this weekend, stop by and see". Just a simple conversation. A week later she finds four other women that all like fantasy and want to know more about this 'game'.  And so were born the Mad Moms.  None of them had played any sort of RPG before, but they took to it like a duck to water.  The group lasted for years.</blockquote>