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Message: <blockquote data-quote="randomling" data-source="post: 511377" data-attributes="member: 8432">Yeah, I completely understand that sentiment, it's great if you can feel comfortable enough in your gaming group to really be yourself. I want them to see me as their friend. But I don't want to be their friend at the expense of feeling really uncomfortable when they do certain things, and feeling I can't speak up for fear that they will have to watch what they say around me.A few people asked, has the group done this kind of thing before, when I was a player. Back when I first joined, there were a few things I didn't like (mainly being referred to as "wench", yes, out of character), but I stood up for myself and told them to stop. I thought I'd dealt with it. But now I'm DMing... here it is all over again.I don't want to be really authoritarian as a DM and bitchslap them for having a bit of fun. They have a right to make jokes, to be sure. But at the same time I have a natural tendency to act like a doormat, and a DM can't be a doormat, and I'm having a hard time finding the middle ground.This is probably a discipline issue as much as anything. I have some trouble when the players want to be uncooperative in general. But I still wanted to get the experiences of some other female DMs and see how they handle it?By the way, thanks Silver Moon for the link, most interesting reading!And to Silver Moon's wife: we were clearly posting at the same time! I'm going to print out your comments and put them in the front of my DMing ring-binder. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" /></blockquote>

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