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<blockquote data-quote="maddman75" data-source="post: 513134" data-attributes="member: 2673">I regularly endure about a half an hour of non stop sex jokes at the beginning of every game.&nbsp; Or if it isn't sex jokes, its movie quotes, or something.&nbsp; I refer to it as 'getting the stupids out of the way'.For us, gaming is social, and largely the only time we get together.&nbsp; So we have to go through that.&nbsp; I wouldn't take it personally -- players have a need IMHO to get into a social frame of mind.After you have done that though, get their attention.&nbsp; The best way to do that is to open the game with a tough fight.&nbsp; I believe the term is In Media Res, or 'in the middle of things'.&nbsp; Kind of like Star Wars IV, where the movie begins with Darth Vader attacking princess Leia's ship.&nbsp; Some action to immedietly get everyone involved with what's going on.As far as first time DMing, remember that all players somehow seem to transform into grubbing, power hunger mercenaries as soon as the d20s start rolling.&nbsp; Even the good players will try to pull things over on you.&nbsp; Don't let them!&nbsp; Stick to your guns.You also said that combat isn't your favorite part of the game.&nbsp; How do the players feel about it?&nbsp; Do they like lots of action?&nbsp; Roleplay?&nbsp; Puzzles?&nbsp; Politics?&nbsp; In any case, some in game reminders of some essential RPG principles may be in order.&nbsp; Just make sure they know- You are the DM.- Constant sex jokes piss you off- Pissing off the DM is a BAD freakin idea!And personally, while we've had some jokes and in-character commnets that would certainly make Eric's Grandma chase me around the boards with a rolling pin if I were to post them, we have female players and don't make comments like you described to them out of character.&nbsp; In character may be a different story though <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile&nbsp; &nbsp; :)"&nbsp; data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />.Of course now that I think about it, my female character took more abuse than the ones played by females!</blockquote>

[QUOTE="maddman75, post: 513134, member: 2673"] I regularly endure about a half an hour of non stop sex jokes at the beginning of every game. Or if it isn't sex jokes, its movie quotes, or something. I refer to it as 'getting the stupids out of the way'. For us, gaming is social, and largely the only time we get together. So we have to go through that. I wouldn't take it personally -- players have a need IMHO to get into a social frame of mind. After you have done that though, get their attention. The best way to do that is to open the game with a tough fight. I believe the term is [i]In Media Res[/i], or 'in the middle of things'. Kind of like Star Wars IV, where the movie begins with Darth Vader attacking princess Leia's ship. Some action to immedietly get everyone involved with what's going on. As far as first time DMing, remember that all players somehow seem to transform into grubbing, power hunger mercenaries as soon as the d20s start rolling. Even the good players will try to pull things over on you. Don't let them! Stick to your guns. You also said that combat isn't your favorite part of the game. How do the players feel about it? Do they like lots of action? Roleplay? Puzzles? Politics? In any case, some in game reminders of some essential RPG principles may be in order. Just make sure they know - You are the DM. - Constant sex jokes piss you off - Pissing off the DM is a BAD freakin idea! And personally, while we've had some jokes and in-character commnets that would certainly make Eric's Grandma chase me around the boards with a rolling pin if I were to post them, we have female players and don't make comments like you described to them out of character. In character may be a different story though :). Of course now that I think about it, my female character took more abuse than the ones played by females! [/QUOTE]

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