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<blockquote data-quote="Jer" data-source="post: 7637084" data-attributes="member: 19857">Eh - are you sure she didn't deal with it herself?&nbsp; She may have dealt with it and told it as an anecdote to the store owner, then the store owner also felt like they had to say something about it because that's what adults tend to do around kids.&nbsp; A kid makes a mistake and they get it from every adult who thinks they have some level of personal relationship to the kid - either in the form of making sure they know it was serious, or razzing them about it, or sometimes support for the kid cause they think the other adults are out of line.&nbsp; But they all feel the need to comment on it, even if they've been told that it's been settled.Also D&amp;D is the weird game here.&nbsp; If you were playing Settlers of Catan or Magic the Gathering and a new player pulled out the rulebook to look something up, you wouldn't be phased.&nbsp; But in D&amp;D there's this mystique about hiding certain rules from the players because if they know the monsters stats then it impacts the game - looking in the Monster Manual is less like looking at Hoyle's Rules of Games during a card game and more like looking at the other player's cards.&nbsp; But new players don't know that yet - it's not like the kid was peeking at the DM's notes or something.&nbsp; So it's part of the training new players process to make sure they know &quot;hey, it's poor form to do this in front of the DM - you're supposed to commit all the stats to memory away from the table and then pretend you didn't read the book when called on it.&nbsp; That's how we did it in the 80s.&quot;</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Jer, post: 7637084, member: 19857"] Eh - are you sure she didn't deal with it herself? She may have dealt with it and told it as an anecdote to the store owner, then the store owner also felt like they had to say something about it because that's what adults tend to do around kids. A kid makes a mistake and they get it from every adult who thinks they have some level of personal relationship to the kid - either in the form of making sure they know it was serious, or razzing them about it, or sometimes support for the kid cause they think the other adults are out of line. But they all feel the need to comment on it, even if they've been told that it's been settled. Also D&D is the weird game here. If you were playing Settlers of Catan or Magic the Gathering and a new player pulled out the rulebook to look something up, you wouldn't be phased. But in D&D there's this mystique about hiding certain rules from the players because if they know the monsters stats then it impacts the game - looking in the Monster Manual is less like looking at Hoyle's Rules of Games during a card game and more like looking at the other player's cards. But new players don't know that yet - it's not like the kid was peeking at the DM's notes or something. So it's part of the training new players process to make sure they know "hey, it's poor form to do this in front of the DM - you're supposed to commit all the stats to memory away from the table and then pretend you didn't read the book when called on it. That's how we did it in the 80s." [/QUOTE]

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