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Message: <blockquote data-quote="shadow" data-source="post: 2891272" data-attributes="member: 2182">I've gamed with a variety of groups over the years with a variety of playing styles.  I've noticed that overall gamers seem to be a sarcastic bunch.  A while back in a previous gaming group there were several players who had a very sarcastic insulting sense of humor.  They would banter back and forth by making jokes at other's expense.  Now in this group there was a player who had an obvious speech impediment (which was apparently partially biologically based).  The player was very self-conscious of this defect.  Naturally he was a target and a butt of very many jokes of the rest of the group.  Now, I don't think the others meant to be mean spirited, but it was just that their sense of humor was very insulting (they would insult each other in addition).  This sarcastic sense of humor was seen as a way to blow off steam and no offense was really meant.  However, it became obvious that the one player was very uncomfortable about being the butt of many of the jokes (especially since they were often targeting his speech problem).I ended up talking to the DM about this and I was told that no offense was really meant, the other players had no desire to police its language and be "politically correct", and that the player in question would just have to "stop being so sensitive" and "develop thicker skin".  Needless to say the player sadly left the group not long afterwards.  I started thinking, how far is too far with joking at the table?  Obviously, any joke is going to be made at someone or something else's expense, but when does a joke go to far?  Should a group tone itself down to accomodate a player, or should the player simply be advised to seek a different group that would fit him or her better?</blockquote>

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