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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Elf Witch" data-source="post: 4144521" data-attributes="member: 9037">There has already been some excellent advice given here. I would like to add something from my own experience. I DM a husband and a wife. Both used to play back in college in the late 70s early 80s. The wife dropped out of gaming years ago but want to come back. She is finding 3.5 very complicated but slowly learning it. In my game she started out playing a ranger but got frustrated with the rules so she switched to a sorcerer. She is finding that much easier to play.One thing I learned is not to invloe her husband in any character creation for her. He was driving her crazy with advice she felt a lot of pressure. He took it badly anytime she didn't take his advice. He took it a little personally. The other thing was that he is interested in playing quirky characters she is not she wants her character to kick ass and take names.  He drove her crazy over her choice of magic missle as one of her two spells. He views that spell as overused and uncreative. Where as she views it as I point my finger don't miss do damage hey that is way cool.I finally stepped in and told hubby to butt out. That I was the DM let me help her build her character.Let her come to you as the DM that way right from the begining you are showing both of them that this is not a couple's thing hoefully that will ward of any joint playing of the character.</blockquote>