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Message: <blockquote data-quote="I'm A Banana" data-source="post: 6188577" data-attributes="member: 2067">There's two things about this short sentence I don't understand.The first is that I don't understand how "circumstances" could "force" you into playing a game you don't want to play. If someone wants to play something, and you don't want them to play it, you can ask them not to play it, no? And, assuming that their fun doesn't hinge on one particular character choice, you're good. And if it DOES hinge on that one particular character choice, well, you'd never be able to play together happily anyway, because your styles are incompatible, so there's no big loss. Congrats, you avoided playing a game with someone you wouldn't have enjoyed playing the game with. It's win/win, and all you had to do was ask them if they could maybe not play a character that's incompatible with your preferred style. No one is forced to do anything, you have a talk about what you want, and if you want different things, you go your separate ways -- better to not play than to play something you're not having fun with!The second is that I don't understand why someone who had such a high bar for the experience would go do something like participate in an event where they are not in control of what the experience is. If your D&D is defined quite rigidly by you, and that is all you like playing, why would you go somewhere that you know you wouldn't like to play it -- ie, somewhere where the definition isn't yours? That's just signing you and all of your players up to be disappointed, if you disagree with the framing of the scenario. If that's "all you can get," why would you get ANY, if it didn't meet your high standards?I wouldn't say it's arrogant to discuss some expectations. "There are only elves and dwarves and halflings and humans because this is a standard pseudo-medieval Tolkeinequery" is totally fair, because that defines a kind of feel you're going for, and reveals some of what to expect.I would say it's kind of silly to be too inflexible, because then you wind up in a position where the only thing you want to play isn't something that anyone else is really interested in playing, but like I said above, that's kind of a problem that solves itself. If all you like to play isn't what anyone around you wants to play than no one plays with you, and so no one needs to suffer under the oppressive preferences of the other.</blockquote>

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