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<blockquote data-quote="fusangite" data-source="post: 2107405" data-attributes="member: 7240">I'm lost here RangerWickett. You need to present us with some evidence for why you are referring to this individual as your girlfriend. How recently have you begun referring to her in this way publicly? How does someone even enter the girlfriend category without a successful kiss anyway?In my experience, early physical contacts are a test to determine whether mutual goodwill will transform into a relationship; and these tests proceed as a series of higher-stakes, more intense stages. Early physical contacts are like an obstacle course -- different tests with escalating levels of difficulty that are all, nonetheless, part of the same event. Just because you passed the hand-holding test doesn't mean you've passed the kiss test. Clearing the hurdle just gives you a chance to fit through the tunnel of tires; it doesn't offer you any surety you will get through it. Once you fail any test, you've lost.I could also use the metaphor of a final exam. The fact that you're sitting the exam means that you have met most of the conditions for passing the course. But if you fail the final, all the tests leading up to it suddenly become worthless in the face of this final failure. So, the fact that the kiss didn't work out makes all the hand holding irrelevant. It seems to me that Cat has just gone from being nearly your girlfriend to not your girlfriend.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="fusangite, post: 2107405, member: 7240"] I'm lost here RangerWickett. You need to present us with some evidence for why you are referring to this individual as your girlfriend. How recently have you begun referring to her in this way publicly? How does someone even enter the girlfriend category without a successful kiss anyway? In my experience, early physical contacts are a test to determine whether mutual goodwill will transform into a relationship; and these tests proceed as a series of higher-stakes, more intense stages. Early physical contacts are like an obstacle course -- different tests with escalating levels of difficulty that are all, nonetheless, part of the same event. Just because you passed the hand-holding test doesn't mean you've passed the kiss test. Clearing the hurdle just gives you a chance to fit through the tunnel of tires; it doesn't offer you any surety you will get through it. Once you fail [i]any[/i] test, you've lost. I could also use the metaphor of a final exam. The fact that you're sitting the exam means that you have met most of the conditions for passing the course. But if you fail the final, all the tests leading up to it suddenly become worthless in the face of this final failure. So, the fact that the kiss didn't work out makes all the hand holding irrelevant. It seems to me that Cat has just gone from being [i]nearly[/i] your girlfriend to [i]not[/i] your girlfriend. [/QUOTE]

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