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Message: <blockquote data-quote="fba827" data-source="post: 4772372" data-attributes="member: 807">I would 1) tell them that we don't seem to be able to all meet as often, so how about we schedule it for every other week (rather than every week), or once a month ("the second saturday or every month").  It sets expectations better to have it more focused rather than casual thought of dropping in/out.2) look for another group to play with on the weeks you aren't playing with your 'regular' group3) if you have no friendship ties to any of them (save the one person) once you do find a new group, see how they like 'drop in' guests and maybe your irregularly-attending friend could do drop ins with the new group as it fits his fatherhood schedule.That would allow you to hold on to what you have and still find something to satisfy your gaming itch  (wow, I think I just justified having an affair <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f61b.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":-P" title="Stick out tongue    :-P"  data-smilie="7"data-shortname=":-P" /> )BUT if you _want_ a clean break to help free yourself mentally (which may be the case, considering that you posted here) then, you will have to take the "fast bandaid pull" approach.   Talk with everyone (or at least your closer friends), do not name names or specifics or get personal and refer to the group as a whole.  Just keep it down to the facts that focus on you -- "Everyone seems to be getting busier, so I just wanted to let you know I'm planning on (finding another group to play with on the weeks we don't play -or- finding another group)Having said all that -- while it *does* feel personal because these are friends and you have had long associations with some of them, also remember that A) if they are your friends (or if you do other stuff with them) then you can work through this without it being a -huge- problem  B) you can be honest without making it a personal attack on someone else's lack of time C) in the end, it's all supposed to be for fun/a game so if you're getting worked up/upset by the situation as it is then you do need to change something  D) you're all adults (or at least I'm making that assumption based on the "gaming for ten years together and one of you is a second-time father") so hopefully there is some maturity in there too which will allow you to resolve it with less "emotional stress" than you seem to be expecting.</blockquote>

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