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Message: <blockquote data-quote="der_kluge" data-source="post: 1715731" data-attributes="member: 945">ArcOfCorinth, Sprint.SubMensa, good thoughts.  I certainly value the relationships I have with my family, but I only really see my family maybe 2-3 times per year, though I know my Mom would probably be devastated if I move 1,000 miles away.  Though maybe that will convince her to come see her daughter as well, seeing as how they aren't on speaking terms (I won't go into that here).  I don't talk to my sister much, but of her family, I'm the only one she really does talk to.  She's always kind of been our black sheep, and has more or less chosen to just write us all off.  I'm sure she would love it if I move out there, and having a babysitter we trust would be a bonus, though I don't know where she lives versus where we might would end up living.  I imagine that area can be quite large.As for housing, yea, I'll have to research that some more.  I understand in general the houses tend to be more of the townhome, condo variety, and single-family dwellings are generally a) small, b) old, c) uber expensive, or both a and b.  I'm fairly independent, so I don't rely on my family so much, though it may be harder on my wife.  Her opinion is that we should do whatever is best for the family in the long-run.  Her family (she is the step-daughter) doesn't ever see us, and I think in the 3 years we've lived here, they've been to our house 3 times, and they live an hour and a half away.  Long term, I am probably more inclined to go where the career takes me, though I would prefer to be able to settle down, and work for the same company until I retire, I just haven't found a good company yet.  I kind of felt like the Richmond job might place me in a better place a year or two from now than if I stayed here and let the fates take over.  IBM really only makes money by replacing U.S. employees with cheap foreign labor, so any incentive they have to remove me, and then replace me down the line with someone else, they will take.  If they end up replacing our process, which is on the drawing board, that could end up putting my job in jeopardy.  I have always felt that it was better to be in charge of my own destiny than to leave that in the hands of a corporation.  IBM will also remove all the contractors that we employ, which is significant, since we are the largest employer in this area. If all the contractors become unemployed, the market here becomes even worse, then the housing market will suffer.  Even if I do stay, and I continue to be employed, I'll be dealing with people whose name I have a hard time pronouncing, who don't know our systems, and whom I can only communicate with via very poor quality phone lines.  That can become very frustrating over time.  The whole outsourcing agreement seems to have devolved into a us vs. them mentality with regard to the agreement, because I am in constant battle with IBM (as a non-employee) with regards to their commitments and agreements.  It's only going to get worse, and any mistakes that occur will get blamed on their other guy, which will just lead to a bad situation all the way around.</blockquote>

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