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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Desdichado" data-source="post: 2433651" data-attributes="member: 2205">Well, isn't that what they're saying?  I didn't interpret that as "fight WITH your wife" but as "fight FOR your wife."I don't know what to tell you though.  My wife and I have very different attitudes about TV as well, but they're also very different from yours.  I don't multitask well; when the TV is on, it's hard for me not to focus on it, and I do dislike interruptions.  However, I also don't particularly like to watch TV, so I don't do it very often.  And even then, I'd rather rent a show on DVD and watch it more conveniently than watch it when the network decides to play it with commercials.  And yes, I know what TiVo is, but no thanks.My wife, on the other hand, loves to watch TV, but watch is a generous interpretation of what she does.  She turns it on, and largely ignores it.  With the exception of a few shows (like the Gilmore Girls), it doesn't even particularly matter what's on.  She got that from her parents too--I've been in their house many times where the TV was on in a room with no people because hey, it's just always on.  She likes it as something in the background while she's doing other things; it helps the house not feel so quiet during the day, or whatever.  Frankly, I like to do exactly the same thing, but with music, so I understand it, it just clashes with my attitude about TV.We've compromised over it; if she wants to talk to me, she either mutes or turns off the TV most of the time, and only has it on when she's working on something that would curtail her ability to hold a steady conversation anyway (which is very frequently) and I've gotten better at ignoring shows that I don't want to watch (which is almost all of what she watches.)  And, if our goal is to spend time together, unless we're specifically watching something, we don't have the TV on.  Does that mean that we spend many evenings doing separate things in separate parts of the house for a couple of hours or more at a time?  Well, yes, but we're both OK with that as long as we both make time to ensure that that doesn't always happen.I think the moral there is you can't solve it on your own, and neither can she.  You both have to accept (to some extent) the different viewpoints you have on TV and make allowances for each other rather than take a "my view is right, so you have to change!" attitude.  I'd suggest that you tell her what your concerns are, but also offer up something along the lines of, "hey, certain shows I'm sure you want to watch without interruption, and I can respect that if you don't get so absorbed into just whatever the hell is on," kinda routine.</blockquote>

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